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That is a terrible thing to have to go through. I can see it happeining once, but twice? How could there be no signs? How could the agency not forgive some of your expenses or help you get matched with a less risky situaion? We used a group who escalated the matching process after a failed match bc they recognized the emotional budern and pain associated with that process. I think they were top notch in that regard. They even forgave legal expenses.
I have to say, we have heard of a few very recent situations where adoption disruption is happening at ACSD, though we were told repeatedly how rare it occurrs. I'm not sure that we and others were not misled. We shall see. God Bless.
My Wife and I had a beautiful, amazing Son who is now 6. But after that it was one miscarriage after another, the last of which came at 20 weeks and was devastating to my Wife and I. We finally decided that adoption was probably a better route for us, and we found the Adoption Center.
We went to a free orientation, liked what we saw, and paid $250 to get started, which included a consultation and a couple of other things (which I can't remember at this time, it's been awhile). We came in and met one on one with Sarah. Everything seemed to go just fine, and then we didn't hear from her again.
My Wife kept trying to email/call her with no response. We were anxious to get the ball rolling and couldn't figure out why our calls weren't being returned. Finally, nearly two months after our consultation she finally admitted to my Wife that "she wasn't interested in working with us". No explanation, just that basically we weren't good enough to adopt one of "her" babies.
Being told you're not good enough to adopt a baby is, in my opinion, emotionally worse that going through a miscarriage. My Wife was utterly devastated. If we'd at least gotten some sort of explanation, that may have helped. But being told we weren't good enough was just rotten.
We both got the impression that she was not returning our calls/emails because she was hoping we would just go away. Also, my Wife asked for a partial refund of the $250, since that was supposed to cover more than just the consultation.
That request was denied.
By far, the best for both birth parents and adoptive parents!
I researched several agencies before deciding on Adoption Center of San Diego. After feeling like the agencies were treating adoption as a business, I found ACSD to be refreshing and sincere! After meeting with Sarah, we found someone that viewed adoption as we did. Not a business, but a ministry! When we went to the orientation it was so evident adoption was and is Sarah's ministry. The Adoption Center of San Diego was our perfect match! We continue to sing praises for all that Sarah and her staff has done for us.
Since then, we have adopted two gorgeous children with the help of ACSD. Both times were less than a year, if fact, our 2nd baby only took 2 months! And our kids couldn't be more gorgeous! :) We feel more educated about adoption, open-adoption and have a new found respect for birthmothers and their families because of our journey. If you are ever considering adoption in general, I would strongly suggest one of her orientations. She will educate you in all types of adoption and which route is best for you.
On behalf of both of our wonderful birthmothers, they both called other adoption agencies and felt as if they weren't being treated well. Both of them shared with us that they chose Sarah because she was compassionate and loving towards them. I find that amazing! Both of them, not knowing one another, both shared the same thing with us. I think that says a lot about the wonderful work Sarah is doing at the ACSD!
If you are looking to place your baby, or considering adoption, you can't go wrong with the Adoption Center of San Diego!
With Much Appreciation!
It's such a joy to give an outstanding review to Sarah Jensen Elhoff & the Adoption Center of San Diego! Sarah is knowledgeable, experienced, trust-worthy, helpful, patient, supportive, loving and caring to all parties involved in the adoption process. Sarah is ever present through each stage of the adoption process which is so helpful! I highly recommend Sarah to adoptive parents and birthmoms who are interested in adoption.
Left Me Wondering
I feel the opposite of the poster who said the ACSD didn't seem like it was 'all business'. It did seem like Ms. Jensen was all business and I felt that it was a very lucrative operation for her. We just did not get a good feeling after a few group meetings and a two-on-one interview. I have to wonder how much of ACSD's revenue comes from the meetings/info sessions and interviews all couples must participate in before they work with the ACSD or not.
One of a kind experience...
Our family's experience was amazing. And by "family" I mean the adoptive parents as well as the birth mother. Because our birth mother did not feel comfortable with her adoptive parent choices at another agency, that agency called Sarah (not the first time) to see if she could help make a match. We were the match. There were ups and downs through the process as any important process will have but in the end none of us can look back and think anything but positive thoughts and memories of how Sarah Jensen handled everything. She was caring and strong and held our hand through the roller coaster, which is all you can ask unless you are a mind reader or can predict the future.
Open adoption is an amazing experience if you open your heart to it. Sarah helps all parties realize the benefits, get to know each other, know the expectations of the relationship and make the unknown future a lot easier to deal with.
We knew this was the right place for us since we have three other friends/couples that adopted through Sarah and each separately reached out to let us know about Sarah. Also, when completing the home study with the caseworker for the city of San Diego, the caseworker said "Sarah is one of our favorites to work with." If that isn't an endorsement, I don't know what is.
Everyone has been through a long road to decide to adopt so why not go through it with someone who has a track record and puts her clients first - both birth parent and adoptive parent clients.
If it is difficult to adopt
If it is difficult to adopt a child here check the information about the adoption process in other countries. Not long ago I came across a video http://www.tubestime.com/watch/adopting-sophia-part-i where one woman speaks of how easy it is to adopt a Chinese child. I think the same works in other developing countries who will be happy to save a child from its unattractive fate in a poor and corrupted country.
Sarah Jensen Elhoff matched us with 2 different birthmothers. After paying for their pre-natal care, neither went through with the adoption. Expensive, Stressful and not good for our marriage. I see others had success. I have a feeling that the ones who were unsuccessful are so emotionally drained, they do not have the energy to make posts on websites. Definitely spend your money and time at your own risk.
Age Guidelines/ Demographics
We really wanted to sign with Adoption Center of San Diego, however the representative, (although friendly), we spoke with told me we didn't match their demographics. They look to match infants with younger couples,. They referred us to another Facilator in the Los Angeles area, but found they have negative reviews. So we are back to square one, and looking for another agency/ facilatator that is willing to work with couples in their forties.
Superior in every way
We adopted our son domestically through another agency and came to ACSD for our second adoption. What a difference! Sarah is compassionate and savvy - both necessary traits for a smooth adoption. She is truly on everybody's side - her love for birthmothers is evident as is her appreciation of adoptive parents. In comparison to our previous experience, ACSD offers far more support and counseling to both birthmothers and adoptive parents. There is a higher level of professionalism as well. I give my highest recommendation to ACSD and Sarah, the adoption facilitator.