Bethany Christian Services Hot
Not very polite or personal. They were rather rude when we called them when we were searching for an agency. We chose someone else
When we started looking for an adoption agency, we called Bethany Christian Services because we are Christians and we thought it would be nice to work with a Christian agency.... Bethany was disrespectful and discouraging to say the least. The lady I spoke to, was condescending; asking if I was sure it was Gods will for us to adopt and saying she doesn't think we're the kind of family "their" expectant mothers are looking for! Needless to say, we knew right away they were not the right fit for us! We quickly found another agency who has been WONDERFUL!! Our home study was completed quickly and our profile has been shown quite a bit in the few months that we've been waiting. We're hopeful that we'll be chosen eventually. But that's not the end of the story- after we started our home study with the other agency, Bethany started harassing us with constant emails, wanting us to sign up for an orientation session with them! And worse yet, asking for donations. I'm glad some people like them but I'm not particularly impressed
I guess the old saying is true, you get what you pay for. We went with Bethany Christian Services because of their affordability and what we thought was an emphasis on Christian values. Honestly, the values part was not a deciding factor for us but we thought there might be more care and compassion using a Christian service provider. I have to say the entire experience has been incredibly disappointing. Three years and four failed adoptions later, all we have to show for our efforts is a half empty bank account. Money we will never see again. But while that's frustrating, that's not upsetting. What's upsetting is having a completely absent agency representative that only calls to tell you that you will be not be receiving the most recently matched baby as they just saw the birthmother's picture on Facebook with the baby. Her next suggestion was that we look at other "family plans". I get why she suggested that b/c it looks bad on her books to have a couple that has waited close to 3 and 1/2 years, but it still came across as incredibly callous and not encouraging. If I had to do it all over again I would have waited another year and saved the money necessary to go with a better agency.
Bethany is AWFUL
We worked with Bethany in Georgia for 18 months for Foster adoption. It took them A YEAR to complete our home study. Then that adoption worker just left. We were then in limbo for 3 months bounced from one worker to another. Then they hired someone to take the previous worker's place & of course she didn't know us so obviously was not vested in us. Then she got pregnant & went on maternity leave. The whole experience was horrible. What an utter disappointment & such a frustrating experience. The adoption workers don't care about the families. It's no wonder there are so many children in foster care in this country. The system is in such disarray & the children are the victims. We have decided now to adopt international. For anyone considering adoption DO NOT CHOOSE THIS AGENCY. It will be the worst decision you will make.
Bethany Christian Services
We are currently in our second international adoption through Bethany Christian Services. From beginning to end they have been very thorough and very ethical. They carefully examined each document to make sure there were no errors and things would go smoothly. They were very honest from the beginning about our adoption and travel fees. The education they required of us was excellent and extremely helpful. We chose to adopt a child with special needs. When we received our referral the baby's special needs were not things that are common in the adoption world. They never pressured us to accept the referral. They just gave us the facts, encouraged us to have doctors review her medical file, and then they gave us space to make our decision. While we waited to travel, the doctors who had reviewed our baby's medical file were making medical recommendation for the doctors in our daughter's country. Bethany was very good at passing that information on to our daughter's doctors in her country. Bethany was very good at giving us general updates, medical updates, photos and videos of our daughter in the time we were waiting to travel. When we traveled to our daughter's country, Bethany's staff in that country were just as thorough and professional as the staff in the US. They walked with us each step of the way. We never felt alone or unsafe while oversees. It was very obvious to us when we went to court with our daughter oversees that the Bethany staff was very respected in the court system. Bethany even hired a film crew to video tape the going-away ceremony at the orphanage so we could just enjoy our baby and not need to worry about our camera. We received a beautiful DVD of the ceremony before we left to come home. We were please with them during our first adoption and did not hesitate to use them again for this adoption.
Birth Mothers are loved at our Bethany!!!
I am a birthmother and am disheartened to read about so many birth parents and adoptive parents having awful experiences with Bethany. I contacted the Washington State Bethany services in 2006 because I had become pregnant and wanted to place my child for adoption. The adoption counselor walked me through the process every step of the way - and I was completely in charge the whole time. They helped me design my birth plan; supported my choice of a doula; helped me look at myriad potential parent profiles and set up interviews; were there at the hospital; and immediately put me in touch with counselors and support services for post-relinquishment needs.
I cannot say how much of a blessing they have been, and continue to be. I am still in constant contact with my Bethany adoption counselor, and our local offices host regular events to which birth parents are invited. We are often told about new counseling or support services as well.
My heart aches for those who've experienced such terrible things. But I can say our local Bethany offices and staff have been terrific. In the years since my daughter was placed, we couldn't have asked for a more professional and caring adoption agency!
So much for an Open Adoption
I would not recommend Bethany Christian Services to anyone unless they want a closed adoption. If you are looking for an open adoption, it is best to find another agency.
You don't get what you ask for
Would not recommend. Made it very clear I wanted an open adoption and did not get one.
Disrespected by Christians - their new slogan
I can not believe as a family that wanted to adopt an older child and wanted to make a difference to someone that needed us, in return we got put in a horrible situation with a total lack of respect and caring from Bethany Christian Plymouth MN office. We picked them cause I felt we would have Christian experience. Half truths, lack of disclosure and an inability to see us as a family unit with feelings, boundaries and deserving of respect was our experience. Do NOT work with this office. They have their own agenda. The sad thing was they aren't good liars so it was pretty apparent when we caught them not treating us with respect (ex: one social worker would disclose not knowing what the other said, found out from outside agency people - like dr office, etc). I pray that they take my feedback that I provided verbally and try and approach families differently!
Recent birthmother experience
I recently placed my baby boy through an open adoption. I'm still working through all of the emotions and trying to process the new normal of my life. I worked with Bethany throughout my entire pregnancy. My pregnancy counselor became a friend to me. I never felt pressured to place my son. I always felt in control of every decision that was made and that was stressed to me time and time again- I was in control of choosing his family, how things would happen at the hospital, what the openness would look like, etc. After I had him, I began to second guess my decision and even majorly changed the plan that I had made. Through it all, Bethany was beside me supporting me in whatever decision I made. Since the placement, my pregnancy counselor has been in contact with me multiple times just to check on me and has even met with me to talk. My only complaint would be preparation for what life will be like after a placement has occurred. The entire process focuses on what will happen and how, but not how you will be afterwards. But I can honestly say I felt respected and loved by the Bethany staff.