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We fostered and adopted through Christian Family Care. They were with us all the way. They had endless resources and our worker was always available. They encouraged us to speak openly and honestly to our son and gave us the skills to do so. I'm very thankful for that, he knows his story and is proud of it. I would recommend this agency to anyone in need of support and to anyone looking to grow their family.
The term "Christian" is very misleading..
I really have no words to describe Christian Family but some would be that they are not Christian. I was a father of a newborn and I had just lost my job. It was heartbreaking but deciding not to be on public assistance or other things I decided, we decided to give up our child for adoption. I consider myself a Christian; believe in god and the so forth. This agency provides counseling, by your case worker and offers other things. We accepted temporary housing, a weekly hotel. My wife was still pregnant when we accepting these things. When she gave birth we are still dependant on the housing but she began to have second thoughts. We expressed that to them, not saying no, simply saying please give us time. She gave birth on a Tuesday; I called our case worker on a Wednesday from the hospital. She immediately pushed that the adoptive parents come to the hospital; I simply stated she wasn?
From a birthmother's prospective....
FYI...I had to give it a rating, or it wouldn't have let me post. Otherwise, i wouldn't have given it any stars! I do NOT recommend this agency for anyone PLACING their child/children. I was a young 19 year old mother at the time I placed my 3 children. (They were about 1,2, and 3 years old at the time). I initially had placed my middle child first, hoping that maybe I would be able to just care for the other two. I can say without a doubt, that he went to the MOST wonderful family in the world. I couldn't have asked for a better family. To this day, they have KEPT their word about an open adoption. I've had the opportunity to see him grow over the years, through pictures and in person. However, I can't say the journey for my other two children has been the same. I eventually ended up placing my other two children, and under the "word" of CFCA, was told that they would be kept together when placed. There was some trouble with finding a family that was willing to adopt 2 at the same time, but alas, a family was found. I got the unfortunate opportunity to meet this family, and after meeting them I had a BAD feeling about them. Something didn't seem right, almost too fake. But the agency, due to the fact that they were having difficulty placing two kids at once went ahead and placed the kids with the family anyways. After about 6 months of being with this family, they "gave back" my son. 6 months after that, they "gave back" my daughter. During this time, the two kids were split up, and put into two seperate foster homes. I was not THRILLED about this. After being in these foster homes for a while, my children had started exhibiting behaviors of being sexually abused. (This, we later determined happened at the house of the family that had accepted them both, their older sons as the abusers). After some time in foster care, the families that were fostering them fell in love with my children. Although they were separated, I FELT that they were going to good families that had PROMISED me and were WILLING to be open with me in raising my children. NOT how that turned out at all....the family that adopted my oldest son...to this day has rarely so much as sent me a picture of him. (He will be 19 years old this year!). They didn't want to deal with his issues, and have bounced him around from respite him, to respite home and finally sent off halfway across the country to a military boys school. My daughter, (who, the last time I was her was 5 years old), just turned 17. Her parents eventually DIVORCED, and she has lived with the mother who has moved her around from state to state, putting her in public school and then "homeschooling" her. It was just revealed (after her mother got admitted to the hospital for a "nervous breakdown" the other day, that her mother is SEVERELY bi-polar and refuses to take medication. So, during this time, my dear daughter has had to deal with being moved around, her parents divorcing, AND her adoptive mother's deteriorating mental health status. If I had known all those years ago then, what I know about these 2 families now, I NEVER would have let them take my children! I made the hardest decision in my life at that time, because I wanted the best for my children. That's not the case. They've been in more unstable homes than they would have been if I had been able to keep them. I believe there are some SERIOUS flaws in CFCA's screening processes, as far as the emotional/psychological/psychiatric screen goes. If you are a birthmother that is even THINKING about placing your child with CFCA, PLEASE reconsider! If you TRULY want the best for your child, go elsewhere. If you want to place with them MAKE SURE that they do psychiatric testing on the adoptive family, (ESPECIALLY THE MOTHERS!). It seems to be the two mothers that are whacked out nutjobs.....If you are an adoptive family that wants to adopt from CFCA...PLEASE divulge an psychiatric issues that you think you might have, don't have but runs in your
I researched several agencies, both local and national, before deciding on CFC. We really wanted a Christian agency that held a good reputation in the community. The staff were very open to answering questions even before we completed our application, which I cannot say about other agencies in Phoenix. While no process is perfect, we were more than satisfied by our experience. We did have times when responses were a little delayed due to the counselor's schedule, but we were always able to get in touch with someone to get answers. No matter who we spoke with, they were always very friendly and helpful.
We felt the fees were in line with other private agencies. It was a bit expensive, but we really liked the one-stop shopping approach. We will probably not be able to afford a second adoption through CFC, but that is the only reason that we would choose not to work with them.
I know that there have been several negative comments regarding CFC. I would ask readers to consider the fact that no process is perfect and that the same issues will be possible with any agency. I don't think it's reasonable to expect a 100% perfect process. As long as humans are involved, there will be hiccups. I do believe that they should be held accountable for providing the agreed-upon services. I also believe that we, as adoptive parents, have a responsibility to be well-versed on the process, requirements and details of the adoption.
We are very happy to say that we were placed with a little one recently. Of the people from our Infant Adoption Class, almost everyone has been placed already. From my perspective, CFC has done a great job and fulfilled all of our expectations.
My family chose Christian family care agency to build our family. At first, we felt we found the most amazing agency. We wanted a Christian agency and in Arizona that leaves this agency and another. Our friend new someone at this agency, so we decided to go with them. For the most part everything was great. We did have a hiccup when they didn't know if our church was Christian or not. After educating our social worker, she realized her mistake. We are Orthodox...seems she only knows non denominational churches. Everything else was smooth sailing until my husband was called to serve our country. We had not one issue for 6 months and then the minute he told them he would be leaving in 3 months, it was one thing after another. You would have thought he had to go to prison. Our wonderful experience turned into a battle. We fought tooth and nail to get certified. We had completed everything there was no reason for the delays. We did eventually get certified because they had no valid points not to certify us. When my husband came home, we decided to find a military friendly agency.
We had a horrible experience with cfca, our entire experience was a never ending nightmare. Our social worker was uneducated and not thorough. The director was also very unpleasant and would not listen to our concerns. We feel her close friendship with our social worker made it hard for the director to be professional. They wouldn't refund us our money when we decided to leave, $3,500. We successfully adopted from adopthelp a year later and could not be happier. What went wrong? I think it was my brother being gay is what I believe. I understand their strong beliefs. We hold the same but don't condem us for my brothers lifestyle. Our social worker didn't feel he would be a good uncle and I wouldn't promise to keep him out of our lives. I didn't think Christians judge?
Christian Family Care helped me when others would not
My husband and I were called by God to adopt a non-relative eight year old foster child that fostered with a close friend of ours. Having never researched the world of adoption, I thought the gates would open wide and this child would move in the next weekend. I was in for a rude awakening. I had three adoption agencies tell me that they would not take me because I was only trying to adopt one child and that was too limiting in the world of adoption. I went to Christian Family Care and they said that they believe that God does work miracles and they agreed to work with us.
As I sat through the MAP classes, I was comforted by the fact that these people beleived that God cares for children and that Jesus has a plan for everyone's lives. They did not sugar coat the reality of adopting (or fostering) a child that has been a part of the CPS system. I could not imagine going through the adoption rollercoaster without being able to rely on Christ and knowing that those people who were helping me through the process also relyed on Him to lead them.
Incidently, doors opened and shut as needed, and today I can not even imagine not having my daughter in my life.
My husband and I went back and forth about adoption for a few years. We went to a Catholic Charities meeting and were worried about the fact that taking a stand on things like homosexuality would not be acceptable (we do have several friends who went through CC and we do think it is a great organization). So, we turned to Christian Family Care. Even though we knew it would cost quite a bit of money to adopt, rather than be almost free, we wanted to work with an agency that would respect our values and understand our faith. Also, we were thinking that we wanted to do an infant adoption, which is not as easily accomplished through state agencies.
We attended classes one year, and then got busy and didn't do anything for a year. A year later, we finally filled out all of our paperwork and did our homestudy--though we had CFCA hold off on actually submitting the paperwork until we knew we were ready, as we were working through a difficult financial time. Through all of that, CFCA not only remembered our family, but they were patient and understanding as we worked through our options. A year ago, we moved out of state, making all of that work moot (we had never filed the paperwork). However, CFCA totally understood our situation and even refunded a portion of the money we had paid up front, which we absolutely did not expect them to do.
Everyone we talked to at CFCA was wonderful--very knowledgeable about adoption and wonderful Christians. I would highly recommend this agency and hope that we find another like it in our new state.
We were encouraged to adopt through CFCA by other friends and families that were touched by this agency, whether it was adoption or foster care or both. Because we had already been through the adoption process with other agencies from different states, I believe we compare CFCA with a broader understanding of the adoption process and field.
The first aspect we noticed was that our case worker was a wonderful balance of professionalism and nurture. She and the agency reminded us that they prayed for our family and our process. Compared with other agencies, that was a breath of fresh air, as we are followers of Christ.
While we did hit "dead ends" in the process, we believe that God is sovereign, and things happen for a reason. (The "dead ends" were not the agency's fault; they cannot control birth parents.) We still don't know why some things happened, but we do know that God allowed them to happen. May they be unto his glory, honor, and praise! I mentioned we worked with other agencies in the past. When we came upon difficult situations with other agencies, we were left hanging, questioning, doubting where we were to go next and whether what the agency was asking us to do may be right. With CFCA, we knew we were in good hands, as they kept in good contact with us and checked up on us.
In terms of money, we were willing to pay the agency upfront for different steps of the process. They refused to take anything until things were more certain. And--yes--their fees are reasonable and necessary for running an agency.
I could go on and on about what a blessing CFCA has been to our family. Suffice it to say that we continue to pray for the ministry God's given them and for the people with whom they work. They've helped us understand God's beautiful gift of adoption more fully. For that we are eternally grateful.
A caring and welcoming agency
My family was formed due to the help of CFCA. We have adopted two children through this loving agency. On both occasions CFCA has been very straight with us right from the start. In the first meeting they tell you up front the cost and how the process works. At no point in time do the give you a promised time frame of when to expect a child. It is determined by the birth parents choosing whom they desire to raise the child.
Our case worker was the best. No matter the issue she was always there for us. When we had issues or concerns she would help us through the problem or give us advice on how to work through it. I have had more than a few friends adopt through this agency and have never heard of a single issue. They are a very devoted Christian agency. I could not imagine going through another agency for an adoption. Because of them I have my family and I also stand up and preach for them. I do not give this reccomendation lightly as I know the process of any adoption can be stressful and very time consuming.
This is a first rate agency and I would suggest if you plan to adopt stop in and talk with them. They are there to help you on this wonderful journey of adoption. If God is calling you to adopt give CFCA a call.