Gladney Center for Adoption

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217 Commerce Street
City
Greenville
State
NC
Postal Code
27858
Country
US

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252-756-6064

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Stay Away from Gladney

I also gave Gladney a one, but they deserve a zero. We chose Gladney for what we thought was an adoption agency with good people, processes, and technologies to do the right thing for the birth mother and the couples looking to adopt through Gladney. Their fees were high, due to our combined income levels, which we chose to accept as our impression was that it went to help the birth mothers. It seems they spending more on marketing and slick brochures than needed. They also highlight the Bush family as their sponsors and adoptve parents, and that persuaded us to go with Gladney. We were a military family and a Christian family, and we have conservative family values.

In summary, we were notified after more than six months, that we were not selected as adoptive parents by Gladney as they felt our parenting style was too authoritarian and rigid, which we took to belief that my military background and our religious beliefs/ values as Catholics were not a good fit for Gladney. We’re disappointed, but more upset we wasted over six months of gathering paperwork, and resubmitting paperwork to get to the stage to be told this. Plus they had us take of time from work to drive down to Fort Worth, TX to tell us we were not selected. I asked them, why waste our time, and their reason was a bit flawed. I think they have plenty of adoptive parents applying, and they can choose to be extremely selective. Read the reviews on Gladney and be very cautious before you decide to go with them. The seem to simply want your money and your silence acceptance of their process. They are not a faith based organization , and they do not represent the adoption industry or the adoption cause well. Be warned.

I question their decision making process on how they arrived at their decision, but in hindsight and looking at reviews of Gladney online, I agree with their assessment that Gladney is not a good fit for our adoption needs. I just wish we hadn’t wasted our time and effort with Gladney.

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Avoid Gladney at All Costs!! (Slightly Revised)

First off, it's too bad I have to give Gladney a one-star because it deserves zero stars. Second, the content may look biased to some because our adoption through Gladney failed. As I've looked at the mixed ratings from previous posts out there, there are some parents who have nothing but praises about Gladney as their adoption(s) was a success. Others rightly posted poor ratings because of long wait time, promises made by Gladney that wait time would be short that turned out to be a lie, and others who adopted but have had post-adoption nightmares. My wife and I give Gladney a one-star because of misrepresentation. Please keep this key word in mind as you read this post. Here's our sad story.

We went through orientation at Fort Worth, TX in November 2011 while we still lived in Alaska. We were prepared that a successful adoption could take longer for us because some birth moms don't want to see their child go to a state so far away and one that is expensive to fly to; driving to it is also costly and time-consuming due to the long distance, not to mention a passport is required at the borders for in and out of Canada. At the same time some birth moms won't pick military people because of frequent moves. We left Alaska in mid-2013 (military orders) and moved to San Antonio, TX. At the time we thought our chances for a domestic adoption would greatly increase; after all, we're now in the same state. Amazingly enough, a birth mom picked us at the end of 2013 and needless to say we were thrilled. We met with the birth mom, her mother, her caseworker, and my caseworker at a restaurant of the birth mom's choosing - ALL at OUR expense! Before I go any further, keep in mind the birth mom was a 13-year old BRAT!! (I don't sugar coat so if I'm blunt, too bad! Don't continue with this post!) The dinner conversation went well until we started showing photos of the bed room of the baby girl we were going to adopt. The 13-year old birth mom's face changed dramatically. She had a malicious look on her face at that point as if to say, ""You're not getting my child."" Yes, I understand adoption plans are a loss to any birth mom and emotions run off the chart but a 13-year old pulling the strings here?!! Her mother was just a stupid as she could not say no to her little princess. The birth mom gave birth to her baby girl about two weeks later. Things started to smell bad at the time of meeting at the restaurant and only got worse. We were led to believe the birth mom would sign the paperwork short after the birth. However, she threw such a fit. She was allowed to see her daughter at the temporary foster mom's place while all this was going on. Because of her continued fits, the agency thought it would be best to place the baby with her mother (the 13-year old) hoping and thinking a light would come on in her brain that caring for a baby while the birth mom is still practically a baby would be too much for her and that an adoption plan would be in the best interest of the child! Dumb! Dumb! And Dumber!! Of course the birth mom is going to bond with the baby and vice versa. And the 13-year old's mom just couldn't say no even though she had previously pledged to us at the restaurant that her daughter had no choice but to place her baby up for an adoption. Remember the key word ""misrepresentation"" I mentioned earlier? I get it, that birth moms do change their minds. My wife and I just don't get it in relation to a 13-year old. It's true that if you give a child everything he or she wants and that child will hate the parent later on in life when the parent can't provide anymore and I see that happening with this young brat! The misrepresentation came from our caseworker who claimed she saw no warning signs whatsoever that the adoption plan would go south. We were left hanging for three weeks. I phoned two other adoption agencies during this time. One said that the longer we were left hanging, the less like we were going to get the baby. The other agency said when an adoption doesn't look like it will go through, it will inform the adoptive parents after just 48 hours. Friends and family alike saw the warning signs that we were going to be hosed! We knew even when we wanted to be hopeful. Our caseworker lied and played with our emotions! That's what I mean by misrepresentation. When a birth mom changes her mind, it's hurtful but the fact that this pathetic case dragged on resulted in more anger and a much bigger let down. We were so close!

In our case, we tried having our own baby again but once again my wife miscarried for the eighth time. We should have given our failed adoption time to heal so now we are really in a mess with nothing to show for it. We withdrew from Gladney and we did the right thing, despite the miscarriage. They're liars who will not represent the perspective adoptive parents when something like our sad story turns out to be a permanent sad story.

Gladney is over 100 years old and it may have been good at one time. Sadly, while some organizations remain excellent, I believe that's an exception and not the norm. Many organizations go the way of disorder over time; they don't get better. (Just look at our government as an example). It's nearly impossible to set things straight once an organization takes a turn for the wrong direction.

My heart aches for women like my wife who have not been blessed with children. Yes, my heart aches for the men as well as they are part of the whole thing. Don't go to Gladney to add to your sorrow that you already have. At the top of this message, I stated that what you are reading may be biased based on our failed experience; so be it. But Gladney's problem is much more than adoptions that don't go through. A failed adoption can also mean getting a child or children but a child(ren) may be the product of substance abuse by the birth mom that results in a nightmare for the adoptive parents later on. Just read the post above titled ""Gladney Nightmare"" above. Between my post here and the post-adoption nightmare above, Gladney doesn't care about its clients. All they want is your money. We put a lot of money down. The only thing we did not put down was the money that would have gone to Gladney of we had had a successful adoption. We did not get a refund and we have nothing to show for it. Again, avoid this corrupt agency. I'm a believing, born-again Christian who has put his faith in the Lord Jesus Christ so what I am about to say may not make sense to someone who doesn't share the Christian faith but I'm going to say this anyway; it comes from 1 Timothy 6:10 from the English Standard Version of the Bible: ""For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs."" I don't want to get technical here but the King James Version translates the first part of the verse as, “For the love of money is the root of all evil..."" but modern translations are more accurate when it comes to this verse. Gladney will take your money whether or not your adoption is successful but either misrepresents you if the adoption fails (like ours) or doesn't support post-adoptive parents if they suffer the nightmare of a violent adopted child like the ""Gladney Nightmare"" posted above. Yet this agency had the gall to ask for support if the adoption is successful. This agency is evil and parents who wish to adopt should look elsewhere. Avoid Gladney!

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(Updated: February 01, 2015)
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Avoid Gladney at all costs!!

First off, it's too bad I have to give Gladney a one-star because it deserves zero stars. Second, the content may look biased to some because our adoption through Gladney failed. As I've looked at the mixed ratings from previous posts out there, there are some parents who have nothing but praises about Gladney as their adoption(s) was a success. Others rightly posted poor ratings because of long wait time, promises made by Gladney that wait time would be short that turned out to be a lie, and others who adopted but have had post-adoption nightmares. My wife and I give Gladney a one-star because of misrepresentation. Please keep this key word in mind as you read this post. Here's our sad story.

We went through orientation at Fort Worth, TX in November 2011 while we still lived in Alaska. We were prepared that a successful adoption could take longer for us because some birth moms don't want to see their child go to a state so far away and one that is expensive to fly to; driving to it is also costly and time-consuming due to the long distance, not to mention a passport is required at the borders for in and out of Canada. At the same time some birth moms won't pick military people because of frequent moves. We left Alaska in mid-2013 (military orders) and moved to San Antonio, TX. At the time we thought our chances for a domestic adoption would greatly increase; after all, we're now in the same state. Amazingly enough, a birth mom picked us at the end of 2013 and needless to say we were thrilled. We met with the birth mom, her mother, her caseworker, and my caseworker at a restaurant of the birth mom's choosing - ALL at OUR expense! Before I go any further, keep in mind the birth mom was a 13-year old BRAT!! (I don't sugar coat so if I'm blunt, too bad! Don't continue with this post!) The dinner conversation went well until we started showing photos of the bed room of the baby girl we were going to adopt. The 13-year old birth mom's face changed dramatically. She had a malicious look on her face at that point as if to say, ""You're not getting my child."" Yes, I understand adoption plans are a loss to any birth mom and emotions run off the chart but a 13-year old pulling the strings here?!! Her mother was just a stupid as she could not say no to her little princess. The birth mom gave birth to her baby girl about two weeks later. Things started to smell bad at the time of meeting at the restaurant and only got worse. We were led to believe the birth mom would sign the paperwork short after the birth. However, she threw such a fit. She was allowed to see her daughter at the temporary foster mom's place while all this was going on. Because of her continued fits, the agency thought it would be best to place the baby with her mother (the 13-year old) hoping and thinking a light would come on in her brain that caring for a baby while the birth mom is still practically a baby would be too much for her and that an adoption plan would be in the best interest of the child! Dumb! Dumb! And Dumber!! Of course the birth mom is going to bond with the baby and vice versa. And the 13-year old's mom just couldn't say no even though she had previously pledged to us at the restaurant that her daughter had no choice but to place her baby up for an adoption. Remember the key word ""misrepresentation"" I mentioned earlier? I get it, that birth moms do change their minds. My wife and I just don't get it on relation to a 13-year old. It's true that if you give a child everything he or she wants and that child will hate the parent later on in life when the parent can't provide anymore and I see that happening with this young brat! The misrepresentation came from our caseworker who claimed she saw no warning signs whatsoever that the adoption plan would go south. We were left hanging for three weeks. I phoned two other adoption agencies during this time. One said that the longer we were left hanging, the less like we were going to get the baby. The other agency said when an adoption doesn't look like it will go through, it will inform the adoptive parents after just 48 hours. Friends and family alike saw the warning signs that we were going to be hosed! We knew even when we wanted to be hopeful. Our caseworker lied and played with our emotions! That's what I mean by misrepresentation. When a birth mom changes her mind, it's hurtful but the fact that this pathetic case dragged on resulted in more anger and a much bigger let down. We were so close!

In our case, we tried having our own baby again but once again my wife miscarried for the eighth time. We should have given our failed adoption time to heal so now we are really in a mess with nothing to show for it. We withdrew from Gladney and we did the right thing, despite the miscarriage. They're liars who will not represent the perspective adoptive parents when something like our sad story turns out to be a permanent sad story.

Gladney is over 100 years old and it may have been good at one time. Sadly, while some organizations remain excellent, I believe that's an exception and not the norm. Many organizations go the way of disorder over time; they don't get better. (Just look at our government as an example). It's nearly impossible to set things straight once an organization takes a turn for the wrong direction.

My heart aches for women like my wife who have not been blessed with children. Yes, my heart aches for the men as well as they are part of the whole thing. Don't go to Gladney to add to your sorrow that you already have. At the top of this message, I stated that what you are reading may be biased based on our failed experience; so be it. But Gladney's problem is much more than adoptions that don't go through. A failed adoption can also mean getting a child or children but a child(ren) may be the product of substance abuse by the birth mom that results in a nightmare for the adoptive parents later on. Just read the post above titled ""Gladney Nightmare"" above. Between my post here and the post-adoption nightmare above, Gladney doesn't care about its clients. All they want is your money. We put a lot of money down. The only thing we did not put down was the money that would have gone to Gladney of we had had a successful adoption. We did not get a refund and we have nothing to show for it. Again, avoid this corrupt agency. I'm a believing, born-again Christian who has put his faith in the Lord Jesus Christ so what I am about to say may not make sense to someone who doesn't share the Christian faith but I'm going to say this anyway; it comes from 1 Timothy 6:10 from the English Standard Version of the Bible: ""For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs."" I don't want to get technical here but the King James Version translates the first part of the verse as, ΓÇ£For the love of money is the root of all evil..."" but modern translations are more accurate when it comes to this verse. Gladney will take your money whether or not your adoption is successful but either misrepresents you if the adoption fails (like ours) or doesn't support post-adoptive parents if they suffer the nightmare of a violent adopted child like the ""Gladney Nightmare"" posted above. Yet this agency had the gall to ask for support if the adoption is successful. This agency is evil and parents who wish to adopt should look elsewhere. Avoid Gladney!

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Domestic application denied without explanation

Tried to push us into international adoption and turned down our domestic application stating only that there were not many birth mothers and they did not feel we had what the birth mothers were looking for. We are unable to have children of our own, have a good stable income, beautiful home and community and yet we are turned down with such a vague explanation. Unbelievable.. Needless to say we are looking elsewhere to complete our family.

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Wait time

Keep in mind a lot of birth mothers want families that will do at least a yearly visit. If that is what she is requesting and you aren't willing to do that then that could be why you aren't being shown as much. That said, you need to do what is right for your family, just know that it may take a little longer.

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Who is the caseworker?

If I may ask....who is the caseworker for both of you? I have a feeling of who it might be....

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Caseworker?

6 years? Have you ever had to go "on hold" for any reason? Who is your caseworker?

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whatever you do, do NOT go here

I respect you for your decision to look into adoption. You deserve respect and support and guidance and Gladney is NOT the place for you. I was blatantly lied to on many occasions by the agency in order to keep me with the agency. I was told my son's adoptive parents were open to a visit at one year because that was something that was very important to me. Come to find out, no one even asked them if they were open to and it and it turns out, they were not. This caused a huge tear in the relationship between me and my son's adoptive parents that we've never been able to repair. The agency also told me my son had to go to foster care between being in the hospital with me and going home to his adoptive parents. When we decided this was not an option and were going to go for a private adoption, the agency said that's not a requirement at all. I have voiced my concerns, but no one cares. Birth moms and families FINALLY have a caseworker, but only because someone privately donated the funds because Gladney felt having (just one) caseworker for every birth mom, father and family was not important. Probably because they cannot profit off of someone once their baby has been sold. They are purely in the business of selling babies. Please do not fall victim to this corrupt agency. They simply do not care about you at all after they have made their money off of you. They will only send a letter as a reminder to the adoptive parents for breaking their contract. They will not email or call. They really just do not care at all about birth families. My son's adoptive parents have mentioned they feel the same as I do about Gladney. Please research wherever you go and don't let anyone pressure you into anything, just because the baby is coming soon. I wish you all the best in your adoption voyage. Sending lots of love!
my son was born in 2005. Things were horrible then and have not improved.

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RE: Domestic Adoption

We have been waiting to adopt through their domestic infant program for six years. Yes, you heard that right and I'm sure that Gladney will dispute that claim. They don't like couples that disrupt their marketing averages.

We have a failed adoption through Gladney. It is questionable if Gladney did any background information on this birth mother. It is also questionable if we will ever get another situation. They stated they will roll over all our fees to the next match. The problem is there is never another match/situation.

We seriously question what is Gladney doing for couples in our situation. It is pretty clear they don't want to work with us, but we are a problem as we have retained an attorney to enforce the contract. Gladney constantly tell us how difficult we are and we are too old to adopt.

Thus, I cannot recommend this agency.

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Gladney nightmare!!!

We adopted a large sibling group through Gladney's domestic adoption program 5 years ago and we have gotten zero post adoption support. They are awful and dishonest about helping families post adoption. We called within a few weeks to get help with issues these children were having and they gave us phone numbers to therapists. We did therapy, a lot of therapy, and medical diagnosis and nutritional therapies and much, much more.

One of our children is so violent he can not live in our home and Gladney suggested we just abandon him to the state and get a criminal record for child abandonment. When we said that was unacceptable, they turned our case over to a post adoption worker who then contacted me because she was turning our case over to child protective services. She told me we could lose all of our children, even our birth children, if the state worker found we had not tried hard enough, in her estimation, to help this little boy. I withdrew our case and my husband has had to move out of our home to live with our aggressive son in order to keep our family safe.

Gladney has exhausted our time, money, and mental reserves by making us jump through hoop after hoop. They usually just tell us to google this thing or that thing and make calls. They should call their post adoption support program "google it" because that is their advice 90% of the time anyway. We get plenty of invitations to fund raisers and requests to donate money from Gladney, though.

If you adopt through this agency, know you are on your own if there are problems after finalization. They will give you platitudes and sympathetic words, but the real help will not come. If your adopted child has any real issues, you will be floating on a sea of lonliness, forgotten by Gladney because they have their money and that is what is important in their world.

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