I am sorry that you are so bitter. I was looking through cafemom.com and happened upon this posting and was just wanting to see what it said. I am going through the process again if you did not read it correctly the first time? I have great communication with the agency and always have (for the past 4 years). I have not had any of these things that are mentioned on the website happen to me so I am unsure of their truths. I am so sorry that some of you have had negative dealings with adoption and I hope that your pain gets better with time.
Gina, I am glad that it all worked out for you and I wish that it had happenend for me too. We want to start a family, not sit and post responses to people all day long. You question my validity, but I question yours as well. I'm here because I want to know an agency's reputation and success before I get involved with them. If I had already adopted, I'd be home taking care of my little one and would not be here talking to you as you are doing--I'd be too busy.
It worked out for you, then good for you. But, let's think about this just for a second, people aren't posting for no reason, something is wrong. You however, seem to be posting just to keep bringing the ratings up. You must have stock in the agency because adoptive parents who have succeeded adopting wouldn't care what others say, they would just use the company again and be glad that they have less APs to compete with, their adoption would be that much quicker. But you sound really angry, the kind of anger that only someone who's vested interest is in the agency.
For the record, I spoke with an attorney in Arkansas who was hesitant to say anything bad about them and said that, they have been successful in placing children but they also have many unhappy clients. He went as far as saying they have a retention problem and these are issues that cannot be ignored. So obviously, something is going on.
You said you are sorry I'm bitter, trust me I'm not. Bitter I would be had I given them all my hard earned money and sat on a list for years. But I was lucky to escape, thanks to all the other people who have posted their experiences and thanks to my social worker who has been around the block a few times. I might also add that she has been in the business for over 30 years and said she had never heard of them, good or bad, but now she has.
What's with PAPs who feel the need to engage in personal put-downs in order to defend their agency?
I get really annoyed with the "I'm sorry you feel that way" phrase. It's very dismissive and hurtful. It does not express any type of compassion either.
I also don't like this labeling. And this message is full of labels like "bitter". If a PAP loses tens of thousands of dollars and a child, if they are enraged, bitter, grieving and upset, why not a little sympathy instead of this type of judgementalism? I'd say any PAP with a nightmare experience can justify how they feel. They don't need the stigmatization that comes with some adoptive parent forums that I see.
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I am sorry that you are so bitter. I was looking through cafemom.com and happened upon this posting and was just wanting to see what it said. I am going through the process again if you did not read it correctly the first time? I have great communication with the agency and always have (for the past 4 years). I have not had any of these things that are mentioned on the website happen to me so I am unsure of their truths. I am so sorry that some of you have had negative dealings with adoption and I hope that your pain gets better with time.
To Gina
Gina, I am glad that it all worked out for you and I wish that it had happenend for me too. We want to start a family, not sit and post responses to people all day long. You question my validity, but I question yours as well. I'm here because I want to know an agency's reputation and success before I get involved with them. If I had already adopted, I'd be home taking care of my little one and would not be here talking to you as you are doing--I'd be too busy.
It worked out for you, then good for you. But, let's think about this just for a second, people aren't posting for no reason, something is wrong. You however, seem to be posting just to keep bringing the ratings up. You must have stock in the agency because adoptive parents who have succeeded adopting wouldn't care what others say, they would just use the company again and be glad that they have less APs to compete with, their adoption would be that much quicker. But you sound really angry, the kind of anger that only someone who's vested interest is in the agency.
For the record, I spoke with an attorney in Arkansas who was hesitant to say anything bad about them and said that, they have been successful in placing children but they also have many unhappy clients. He went as far as saying they have a retention problem and these are issues that cannot be ignored. So obviously, something is going on.
You said you are sorry I'm bitter, trust me I'm not. Bitter I would be had I given them all my hard earned money and sat on a list for years. But I was lucky to escape, thanks to all the other people who have posted their experiences and thanks to my social worker who has been around the block a few times. I might also add that she has been in the business for over 30 years and said she had never heard of them, good or bad, but now she has.
that's a very unapologetic apology
What's with PAPs who feel the need to engage in personal put-downs in order to defend their agency?
I get really annoyed with the "I'm sorry you feel that way" phrase. It's very dismissive and hurtful. It does not express any type of compassion either.
I also don't like this labeling. And this message is full of labels like "bitter". If a PAP loses tens of thousands of dollars and a child, if they are enraged, bitter, grieving and upset, why not a little sympathy instead of this type of judgementalism? I'd say any PAP with a nightmare experience can justify how they feel. They don't need the stigmatization that comes with some adoptive parent forums that I see.