I worked with this facilitator in '03. I found them to be unprofessional at best. We were matched with a birthmother in ******. Lifetime never mentioned the fact they facilitators were not legal in that state. The lawyer they recommended didn't mention it either, until we were being discharged from the hospital with our baby and we had to sign ICPC documents. I notice that the form stated we found our son's birthmother by independent networking. I reminded our lawyer that we were matched through Lifetime and she told me that facilitators weren't legal in that state. If I didn't sign the form, knowing that it was false, we couldn't have left the hospital or the state with the baby. I was BEYOND pissed off. I talked to our son's birthmother and asked her what her feelings were on the subject. She wasn't very happy about it either but we'd already bonded and she was certain that we were the family she wanted. I am pissed off that Lifetime put me in a position where I felt forced to lie.
In the end it worked out okay. Our son just celebrated his fifth birthday and we have an amazing open adoption. Lifetime did match us with the child of our dreams but they were not honest with us. We were too scared to confront them because we were afraid that it would jeopardize our adoption. Honestly, what could they say? Sorry wouldn't cut it. I know for a fact they are still doing adoptions in that state because of the situations they have listed on their website.
Tisk! Tisk! Shame on Lifetime for not being honest.
No offense, but adoption law changes constantly. In our state, the counties actually can override what the state has as laws. Lifetime told us very clearly that they aren't attorneys and our legal questions have to be answered by an attorney.
We were told the same thing. Lifetime was always very honest with us. That's why you have attorneys. From my experiences with them, I never found them to be dishonest or misleading in anyway.
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I worked with this facilitator in '03. I found them to be unprofessional at best. We were matched with a birthmother in ******. Lifetime never mentioned the fact they facilitators were not legal in that state. The lawyer they recommended didn't mention it either, until we were being discharged from the hospital with our baby and we had to sign ICPC documents. I notice that the form stated we found our son's birthmother by independent networking. I reminded our lawyer that we were matched through Lifetime and she told me that facilitators weren't legal in that state. If I didn't sign the form, knowing that it was false, we couldn't have left the hospital or the state with the baby. I was BEYOND pissed off. I talked to our son's birthmother and asked her what her feelings were on the subject. She wasn't very happy about it either but we'd already bonded and she was certain that we were the family she wanted. I am pissed off that Lifetime put me in a position where I felt forced to lie.
In the end it worked out okay. Our son just celebrated his fifth birthday and we have an amazing open adoption. Lifetime did match us with the child of our dreams but they were not honest with us. We were too scared to confront them because we were afraid that it would jeopardize our adoption. Honestly, what could they say? Sorry wouldn't cut it. I know for a fact they are still doing adoptions in that state because of the situations they have listed on their website.
Tisk! Tisk! Shame on Lifetime for not being honest.
No offense, but adoption law
No offense, but adoption law changes constantly. In our state, the counties actually can override what the state has as laws. Lifetime told us very clearly that they aren't attorneys and our legal questions have to be answered by an attorney.
We were told the same thing.
We were told the same thing. Lifetime was always very honest with us. That's why you have attorneys. From my experiences with them, I never found them to be dishonest or misleading in anyway.