I respect you for your decision to look into adoption. You deserve respect and support and guidance and Gladney is NOT the place for you. I was blatantly lied to on many occasions by the agency in order to keep me with the agency. I was told my son's adoptive parents were open to a visit at one year because that was something that was very important to me. Come to find out, no one even asked them if they were open to and it and it turns out, they were not. This caused a huge tear in the relationship between me and my son's adoptive parents that we've never been able to repair. The agency also told me my son had to go to foster care between being in the hospital with me and going home to his adoptive parents. When we decided this was not an option and were going to go for a private adoption, the agency said that's not a requirement at all. I have voiced my concerns, but no one cares. Birth moms and families FINALLY have a caseworker, but only because someone privately donated the funds because Gladney felt having (just one) caseworker for every birth mom, father and family was not important. Probably because they cannot profit off of someone once their baby has been sold. They are purely in the business of selling babies. Please do not fall victim to this corrupt agency. They simply do not care about you at all after they have made their money off of you. They will only send a letter as a reminder to the adoptive parents for breaking their contract. They will not email or call. They really just do not care at all about birth families. My son's adoptive parents have mentioned they feel the same as I do about Gladney. Please research wherever you go and don't let anyone pressure you into anything, just because the baby is coming soon. I wish you all the best in your adoption voyage. Sending lots of love!
my son was born in 2005. Things were horrible then and have not improved.
I can't say enough about the wonderful staff of Hope's Promise. Throughout both adoptions, we saw the depth of love and caring they have for the birthparents who choose the hard road of adoption. They walked us through 2 domestic adoptions from beginning to end, showing love and caring for us in the midst of our own personal heartbreaks and the [seemingly long] wait for our placement. They prayed with and for us and helped us to keep trusting God for His children for our family.
When God did make the connection for our firstborn son through adoption, they kept us fully in the loop as things progressed with the challenges of handling a somewhat difficult birthfamily situation. Long past our "official" end of relationship, we have continued to rely on Hope's Promise as our conduit to our children's birthfamilies in our "semi-open" adoptions. HP has been there at every turn, keeping us in communication with their staff and with the birthfamilies. We HIGHLY recommend Hope's Promise.
I placed my daughter for adoption through the Open Door 17 years ago. The agency and their staff could not have been more supportive and helpful to me throughout the process. I knew they cared about me as a person. My adoption counselor stayed up all night with me while I was in labor and read to me from the Psalms. They helped me and the adoptive parents develop a relationship and a contract for an open adoption that included pictures every month and annual visits for the first 3 years in a neutral location. Open adoption is not for everyone but the agency does help birth families and adoptive families navigate this sensitive situation if the adoptive family is open to it and the birth family seems like they have healthy boundaries.
Since I placed 17 years ago, I have stayed in touch with the agency and the its owner, as well as the adoptive family. They continued to
provide counseling and support any time I needed it long after my birth daughter was born.
The decision to place a child for adoption and going through the process is the most heart wrenching, difficult thing a mother (birth or otherwise) could ever go through. The staff at the Open Door made that journey as comfortable, supported, and hope-filled as it could possibly be for me and I am eternally grateful to them.
I think that birthmothers go through a very emotional, sensitive journey. Even if they decide not to place, going through the process of deciding is very difficult. I think that some of the negative comments here come from that place of pain, stress, and sadness. We all sometimes have unrealistic expectations of others, especially when we're hurting.
To any potential birthmother reading this thread, don't be afraid to call around and talk to as many agencies as you can. But don't rule out the Open Door because of someone who posted here out of pain, stress, or sadness that had little to do with the Open Door and it's staff. Call the Open Door. Talk to the counselors there. Decide for yourself about their character and integrity. God gave us all intuition and judgement of our own to use. Pray about your decision, listen to that voice inside you, and make this journey your own! Seventeen years from now, no one but you and your closest family members will live with your decision. So don't listen to any one else while you're making it. God bless! Every birthmother is in my thoughts and my prayers.
My husband and I have a had a very good experience with SMIA. We always receive timely responses, and the process was very smooth and fast. The in country representative is amazing. If we decide to adopt a 3rd child, we will definitely use them again.
This agency is wonderful. We adopted a child with their help eight years ago. The staff was wise and always there for support or to answer questions. I felt they had a great deal of empathy for birth mothers and their families too. I recommend them to anyone who is considering adoption.
I read your story and we are currently at an almost two year wait. I was very alarmed when you said six years. Would you mind contacting us or telling us more of your story ? Are you working with the Center in Fort Worth ? I would like to talk more with you if you would be willing to contact us.
Thanks ! I am so sorry for your experience.
At least two couples have waited six years or more to adopt a child through Gladney that posted reviews on this website. That is no where near what they market to childless couples.
It isn't ethical or right for an adoption agency to promise an easy adoption process due to their process and "marketing presence" and then lecture childless couples to be more patient and understanding when they cannot meet what their marketing is saying. Or in our case tell us we cannot help you anymore because you aged out of our program and no we will not refund any of your fees.
I also don't understand why you think it's wrong to critize an adoption agency that isn't living upto it's marketing. If they are having so many problems with birth mother changing their minds or the adoption process failing so badly, maybe they should stop accept new childless couples until they fix the problem and get the "marketing process" working better.
We have been waiting to adopt through their domestic infant program for six years. Yes, you heard that right and I'm sure that Gladney will dispute that claim. They don't like couples that disrupt their marketing averages.
We have a failed adoption through Gladney. It is questionable if Gladney did any background information on this birth mother. It is also questionable if we will ever get another situation. They stated they will roll over all our fees to the next match. The problem is there is never another match/situation.
We seriously question what is Gladney doing for couples in our situation. It is pretty clear they don't want to work with us, but we are a problem as we have retained an attorney to enforce the contract. Gladney constantly tell us how difficult we are and we are too old to adopt.
Thus, I cannot recommend this agency.
Many of the posts here are from new families who are still "aglow" with the successful adoption of their little miracle. I am writing today because I want to share my current experience of the waiting process with Cindy and Jim at A Loving Alternative. Before we began working with them (just a couple months ago) we had reached a point of desolation as we waited and tried to advocate for ourselves, to no avail. Celebrating with friends and family members when they announced they were expecting became heartbreaking as we were losing hope. We almost gave in the the sadness and exhaustion of "fighting the fight."
Then came Cindy and Jim.
To know that kind, concerned people are advocating for you, it is not just your "fight" anymore, but you have a team of people who want to support you, and know how difficult the process is because they went through the waiting themselves. . . our relationship with A Loving Alternative has opened our hearts up again to hope. We get regular updates about their advocacy and are regularly contacted. We feel engaged and informed all the time!
Instead of saying "IF we become parents" to say "WHEN we become parents." The waiting process has become easier now that we have companions on the journey. When that is being said by someone who hasn't even held her baby in her arms, imagine what I will say about them when (in probably not too long) I am holding my little miracle!
Consider working with A Loving Alternative. It has made all the difference for us.
Adoption Associates came highly recommended by a family we met who had used them twice for China WC adoptions. We brought a child home through them last year and had a great experience as well. The staff was friendly and knowledgable and we always felt like they were treating us the way they would want to be treated if they were the clients. They are well organized and our wait for matching with our daughter was extremely short making our entire process only 12 months. After adding everything up we paid on the lower end of the range we were quoted. They also have a grant program for their families to help with agency fees. I wouldn't hesitate to use them again!
We brought home our ten month old son from the DRC last year with the help of One World Adoptions. We couldn't have asked for a better agency to work with. They answered all of our questions and needs promptly and the communication between the agency and the Congo shows how efficiently everyone works. The staff at the orphanage and the staff that works with you once you arrive in country couldn't be any better. There is nothing I can say about the agency except good things - they brought us the most joy in the world (our son). Adoption is a long hard road and they are there for you every step of the way.
We walked into the Adoption 101 meeting completely unaware of the struggles we would have throughout our journey.
This four star rating is NOT for the overall performance of Caring Adoptions as I do believe there are some areas in which communication is lacking. HOWEVER as we've continued to attend classes and meet the staff members the bad taste that was occasionally in our mouth does begin to dissipate.
The hardest part for us was the number of contacts we had. There is no booklet for who your liaison is and at what point they say goodbye and you move to the next. I really think there is a need for major improvement.
So why the four stars?
Three people- Pat, PJ, and Stephanie.
When I was frustrated and ready to walk away, Pat was there. She walked us through a disruption, eased us when communication lacked, and praised us for our strength. There is a reason she's on top... She is the companies rock and was most certainly ours.
When we finally found the perfect match, Stephanie was a ROCKSTAR facilitator. The # of people she visits in a week is crazy but when she talks to you, there is only you and your birth family. No one else is important during that time but your concerns. Our total rock during the process of being chosen and the 48 hour wait.
And last but most certainly not least, PJ. She says she has the fun job and she might be right. She gets all the babies and has a ROCKSTAR support group where other families talk about concerns, feelings, and what other issues worry them. When I have a question she is literally only a text away. She keeps us motivated, provides tips and most importantly gives us the support needed during the adjustment period.
The road was long and costly. I will not lie, the cost - especially unexpected ones DO HAPPEN. They are angering, frustrating and will piss you off something fierce. I do believe there should be a better understanding and patience when discussing payments and do think if they give you payment options at one point they should honor them later. However if we were wealthier I don't think it wouldn't bothered us so much.
I know this review is long but I feel everything I mentioned was of equal importance. No agency is perfect. Everyone has flaws. You've seen some of CA's and after all the negatives the positives still outweigh them. I wouldn't go through another agency because without them I wouldn't have my sweet baby girl. Here's to eventually going for baby #2!
I am a BIRTHMOTHER who went through Hope's Promise. And I can tell you, I never felt anything but love, support and true care while going through my adoption with Hope's Promise. Adoption is a very emotional process, and for some, its not a quick process. My daughters family, waited 3 years for her. I have an open adoption, and through Hope's Promise, I found an extention of my heart. My daughter and her family are very close to me, even after 6 years. In fact, Im preparing to ask her to be in my wedding. Im continually involved with this agency, be it their Birth Parent panel, Birthmother tea's and even connecting with other Birthmothers, to form friendships and a support system. I love this agency and I can PROMISE, you will too. Its worth every bit.
I am a BIRTHMOTHER who went through Hopes Promise. And I can tell you, its not about the $$$ you pay to this agency, its about how you appear to the Birthmother. You are chosen based on your profile book, looked at by the Birthmother. The family I placed with, had waited 3 years for my daughter. For some, its not a quick process. You must be CHOSEN by the BIRTHMOTHER, not the agency. As stated above, adoption is a very emotional process. You just have to be patient. I never felt anything but love, support and true care with Hopes Promise.
We adopted domestically through Hope's Promise and had a wonderful experience. The case workers were very hands on and to know that they were praying for our family during our waiting time was very reassuring. Ours was a somewhat complicated situation once we brought our baby home and the staff was very knowledgeable and helpful during the time waiting to resolve the issue. They had a thorough knowledge of adoptive law which provided answers throughout our emotional time. I would recommend them.
We had a wonderful experience with The Barker Foundation when adopting from China in 2010. Since international adoption is always changing, we had to work through some new rules out of China, but Tina Ji (Program Director) was always prompt, responsive, and communicated well. She was reassuring and proactive with paperwork issues. She was compassionate and thorough. Our travel experience was very good and well organized. We had no issues with traveling and had a very well planned and efficient trip. Fees were fair.
My only feedback was that the agency could have (had) a more thorough packet on dossier prep (even though I had already completed my dossier prior to coming to this agency) and more direction on process and paperwork direction. Luckily, I was in touch with other adoptive parents who could better answer these. But, we adopted in 2010 and they may have addressed this by now.
While we do not plan to adopt again, if we did, we would definitely use Barker a second time, especially if Tina were there.
Hope’s Promise is a non-profit, faith based, licensed adoption agency that is funded by fees-for-service from adoptive families. Our financial policies and payment schedules are clearly spelled out in three documents which are reviewed and signed by each prospective adoptive family before they begin the adoption process. We provide professional adoption services, support and education to all members of the adoption triad. But we cannot guarantee outcomes or timelines. We deeply regret that not all families are quickly chosen. We understand adoption is an emotional process. And, if coupled with the pain of infertility, is not right for everyone.
Hope's Promise is a Christian Agency in Colorado who helped us with our domestic adoption for our son. They are a very hands-on agency and we found them to be professional, respectful, ethical and very caring. We interacted with many members of their staff and everyone was very approachable and on the ball. We were matched with our baby son within a year of signing up. We are very happy with their service and would highly recommend them to our friends and family.
We were recommended to use A Loving Alternative from our local home study agency. We liked them because they could connect us with birth mothers throughout the entire country, which was appealing to us. We liked casting a wide net and yielding to God's plan for the right child for our family.
Jim was wonderful to work with in setting up our initial profile and telling us all about the process. We ended up matching very quickly! Our profile online and our, "Dear Birth Mom," marketing brochure were, "live," and available to birth moms by August 1st, 2012, and we had a match before September 1st! It seemed like a great match, and Cindy took over and guided us through connecting with the birth mom well. We felt like it was a great match especially after meeting the birth parents. Unfortunately, the baby was born very premature, and the birth parents changed their minds. We were crushed.
Cindy and Jim were instrumental in keeping our spirits high and keeping the faith that we would become parents. And sure enough, we were connected with the birth mother of our daughter by the end of January this year. This birth mom was determined to place her baby, and we developed a close relationship. As a result, we were able to be present for our daughter's birth in March of this year and we finalized in her adoption state last month.
We would recommend Jim and Cindy and their agency, A Loving Alternative, to anyone!