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THEY MAKE DREAMS A REALITY!
Cindy and Jim are fabulous! My husband and I interviewed a number of different agencies and decided to go with A Loving Alternative. We really liked the attention they gave; we felt like we weren't just another number in their database of couples. We signed up with them in August of 2016 and just 5 short months later we brought home our baby girl! The process was a whirlwind and the match happened very quickly. Needless to say we had many questions and Cindy was there to help us every step of the way.
We cannot rave enough about A Loving Alternative! You won't be disappointed!
Our family is whole!
After researching the many avenues for adoption, my wife and I came across A Loving Alternative online and read nothing but positive reviews. We reached out to Cindy and had a great conversation about her services and her experiences when she went the adoption process herself. Cindy even connected us with two of her families that were matched with A Loving Alternative. After reading the reviews, speaking with Cindy, and speaking with the families my wife and I were felt very comfortable moving forward with A Loving Alternative and we are extremely happy that we did.
From start to finish we were set up our profile, were matched with a birth mother and brought our little angel in about 9 months. We were fortunate and were matched with a birthmother only a few months after going live on the website. Also, Cindy and her husband were extremely knowledgeable and were able to address anything that came up along the way.
We are enjoying our time with our little one now and plan to use A Loving Alternative should we decide its best to add another member to our happy family. We highly recommend A Loving Alternative.
THOROUGH, TRUSTWORTHY & COMPASSIONATE!
Cindy and her husband Jim were awesome to work with! They know their stuff and never make you feel rushed when asking them questions (and I asked a ton of questions). They really care about making your dream come true. We had done a lot of research and we kept coming back to A Loving Alternative and we couldn't be happier. Our daughter just turned 1 and every milestone and future birthdays I often think of Cindy and A Loving Alternative. I cannot understand the 1 star review...it can't be further from the truth! We are from PA and had a very successful and positive experience with A Loving Alternative with no issues adopting from our state. Please don't give that review any credence...it simply is not true and does not represent this company in the least.
From the first phone call to Cindy to receiving "THE CALL", Cindy was so reassuring and helpful in lining us up with an agency from the birth state to help complete the adoption process. From the moment our profile was launched on A Loving Alternative's website it was exactly 9 months that we received "THE CALL". What a miracle! Cindy matched us up with a perfect family and we have the most beautiful daughter we could have ever dreamed for! In the end, all costs for our adoption (facilitator cost, birth state agency, birth state attorney, home state attorney and home study) was remarkably close if not equal to the standard adoption fees charged through an agency, except we were able to enjoy a more personal, one-on-one service through A Loving Alternative. What is especially unique about ALA is that they only accept and work with 25 couples at a time. We never felt like a number with A Loving Alternative and feared that we would not have had the personal attention had we gone through a typical agency.
Cindy & Jim had also adopted a daughter and they really know how to relate to your heartache as you take this journey. I know it can be scary and exciting at the same time....and yes, even overwhelming with all the paperwork, but in the end you get your dream and it is all worth it!
If you are considering using A Loving Alternative and are on the fence about choosing them...don't hesitate! They were wonderful, thorough, trustworthy and compassionate! Best of luck to you in your journey! You will be over the moon using A Loving Alternative!
CA Adoption Facilitator work best in CA
This facilitator is located in CA. They state they can work with families no matter what state they are located in. Unfortunately, this is NOT accurate for residents of PA. When this was confirmed by our family attorney in PA, their answer was to move to CA.
I would also note they have a zero refund policy. This means if you send them any monies, you will never get anything back.
Two successful adoptions
We have had two successful adoptions through Cindy & Jim with A Loving Alternative. Cindy is very professional and knowledgeable, kind and patient in what she knows from years of experience is an crazy, emotional ride! We have a biological daughter. Then we began the adoption process for our first adoption. We waited approximately 9 months for a match. We were kept very informed along the way - learning about how many birth moms received our books, if we needed to do any updating to our book, etc. When we were matched, we received a good medical history on the birth mom from Cindy. We never felt any pressure to accept. Cindy sought out an agency in the adoptive state to help us through the process and finalize. Then with two children, we began the process again. This time we waited about 18 months. (Keep in mind, Cindy does a very good job screening the birth moms and has a social worker meet with them to help them with their decision and see how serious they are however some birth moms change their minds. This did happen to us twice with Cindy, but not for lack of thoroughness on her part.) Once we were matched the second time, Cindy helped us find a local attorney which is so helpful because she knows who the best are. She also tries to keep costs low by searching for local attorneys and agencies. We we always fully informed of costs. Our second adoption was finalized and went extremely well. From the beginning, Cindy always said there is a match for everyone and she was right! Even with two children in hand, we were able to grow our family through adoption. We highly recommended A Loving Alternative.
Absolutely the Best !!!
We began working with Cindy and A Loving Alternative after having a terrible experience with another adoption attorney. We wished we had known about A Loving Alternative from the start of our adoption process. They truly are the best around. Cindy is kind, supportive, knowledgeable and we were matched within 6 months of working with her. Not only did she helps us through the entire process, but she was incredibly supportive of the birth mother as well. The adoption process is a long, challenging road and A Loving Alternative helps make it easier. Cindy helps you with every little detail so you know you are in great hands. We will definitely use them for our next adoption. Thanks for helping us create our family and adopting our precious baby girl!
We began working with Jim & Cindy in the fall of 2013 after doing EXTENSIVE research on all of the different options for domestic adoptions. There were many things that made A Loving Alternative stand out to us: we liked that they had the ability to work with birth moms and adoptive parents across the country, we loved that they only worked with a small number of adoptive parents at a time, and they seemed to genuinely care not only about us but also the birth moms with whom they worked. We didn't feel like a "number" at A Loving Alternative, and compared to other agencies their average wait time for a match was much shorter!
We were ultimately chosen by a birth mom who was expecting twins (yes TWINS!:) and after several months of talking and texting with her as she progressed through her pregnancy these sweet boys were born in March of 2015. Throughout the process Jim & Cindy were kind, knowledgeable, and supportive. Our birth mom told us about her experience and she actually chose A Loving Alternative specifically because they were so nice to her and made her feel empowered (she had previously called a different agency and I guess the experience was not nearly as positive). The way they treat birth moms was really important to us!
Bottom line: I highly recommend A Loving Alternative!
Thank you Jim & Cindy for bringing us together with our boys. Our little family is now complete!
A wonderful, trustworthy facilitator!
Our hearts are full and our family is complete! A Loving Alternative was fantastic & We would absolutely use them again! Totally different then our 1st experience. We adopted our 7 yr old from birth using an agency that mysteriously closed a couple months after our adoption. It was a nightmare paperwork wise. It was the classic bait and switch. The paperwork was so messed up we could have sued the agency & their attorney for committing a misdemeanor....& more importantly we could have lost our beautiful baby! Of course our little one absolutely is 100% ours & we would do it all over again to make her ours but Because of this experience we decided to use a facilitator instead of an agency. That way we were able to choose who we work with instead of 'everything being provided for us'. Jim & Cindy are well connected around the country & we were able to choose who we worked with this time & it was fantastic! They both have incredible people skills & immedietly made us feel comfortable which was not easy given our previous experience. They gave us realistic expectations & Cindy still stays in touch even though we have had our new baby for a couple months. They have been through the process them self, so well know the fears, ups & downs & joys of adoption. I would highly recommend them! They're not inexpensive but in the end the total cost for the adoption will be very close to an adoption agency if the other aspecs of the adoption are also ethical. We wish you the best!
My husband and I always knew we wanted to adopt, so when we were faced with infertility early on in our marriage we already knew what we were going to do. A Loving Alternative came recommended by a family friend, so we called and spoke to Jim who was as kind as could be. We completed the paperwork, had our home visit and our booklets completed by early March 2014. On Ash Wednesday of 2014 we received a call from Cindy that we were on the books and ready to go.
On October 20, 2014 we received a call saying we had been picked. I spoke to the birth mom that night and had a great conversation, but then she completely disappeared (through no fault of Cindy or Jim's). It was hard, especially because she would randomly contact Cindy and then disappear again. Cindy reminded us that it wasn't an official match and that she would keep looking for another match for us. As hard as it was (and it was a roller coaster at times), Cindy was incredibly supportive and would take our calls so we could vent. She was very comforting and understanding, especially because it was very unusual (even for them with over 20 years of experience) to have something like this happen.
On the night of November 17 (our wedding anniversary), we got an email that the birth mom had gone to the doctor and found out she was due around December 6. She still wasn't talking to us, but she did talk to Cindy. We continued about our lives, however, since we didn't want to get our hopes up. On November 28, the day after Thanksgiving, we got a call from Cindy saying that a healthy baby boy had been born that morning! Despite everything, the birth mom picked us (apparently she picked us and thought she didn't need to do anything else for the rest of the pregnancy) and we flew to California the next day and have been with him ever since.
Cindy and Jim were incredibly helpful; because our case was unusual, they stayed in close contact throughout the entire process, put us in contact with a fantastic social worker in California (we're from out of state), and also set everything up with an agency in the area that helped finalize the process. 11 weeks later, and we are back home and in the middle of finalizing the adoption! Our little boy is happy, healthy, and perfect in every way. Although it was a roller coaster at times, we would do it all over again. We are extremely grateful to both Cindy and Jim.
Working Hard to bring families together
A year and two months after bringing our daughter home in October 2013, I remain grateful every day for the hard work that Cindy and Jim put in our behalf. Like many of the other couples that have posted, my husband and I had tried for several years to have a child on our own (IVF, miscarriages, etc.). Coming to Cindy and Jim who have a deep understanding of how this feels made us know we were in the right hands. They turned their own difficult learning experience into helping others, and yes, making a successful business for themselves. Nothing wrong with that.
We made several initial connections from very early in our process, and then one 5 month committed connection that tore our hearts out when it failed. Cindy knew how painful this was and worked to make other connections for us quickly (we told them we were ready to make more connections right away, as a way of healing and having hope). 5 weeks after our failed adoption we became parents to the most wonderful baby girl we could have ever dreamed of.
My only suggestion for improving their business/service would be to hire someone with a little more computer expertise. Maybe as their business grows and evolves they can do that.
Forever grateful. Thank you Cindy and Jim.
Our dreams came true!
We found A Loving Alternative while researching reviews online. Once we spoke with Jim and Cindy over the phone, my husband and I knew they were the ones that were going to help us find our baby. By the last week of March 2014, our Dear Birthmother packet was created, printed and was in process of being mailed out to interested birthmothers. We thought we had enough time to prepare our home. My husband and I were both thinking it wouldn't be any faster than a year before we would find someone who we could connect with. Well, we were both wrong! On May 1, 2014 I received a call from Cindy about a "potential" baby that would be here on June 23rd. We told her we were extremely interested and on May 3rd we found out "It's a GIRL!" and her due date was moved up to May 23rd! I had less than a month to prepare, so I thought! By May 7th we got the call that our baby would be here by May 9th and we needed to get there now.
We packed our bags and made an all night drive to a state we had never been to before and loved every minute of our experience doing so. Our baby girl was finally here and in our arms! We couldn't have asked for anything more. Cindy and Jim were there every time we had a question. Even if they didn't have an answer for us, they would do what they could to help answer those questions.
Thank you Cindy and Jim for our beautiful baby!
We consider A Loving Alternative a part of our "FAMILY"
Never Thought It Would Happen To Us
In December 2013 after months of stressful fertility treatments, my husband and I suffered our 5th miscarriage and still had no answers as to why. I felt as though I wasn't meant to have children. Once again I was the statistic that didn't have a happy ending. We had always agreed not to go the IVF route and instead start the adoption process. I began researching online almost immediately and found many facilitators which was a new concept to me. I compared the facilitators to big agencies that had hundreds of waiting families and wait times as long as 2-4 years. We had been waiting for our family to be complete for too long as it was. I knew I couldn't handle another long wait. I read through many facilitator's websites, but A Loving Alternative stood out to me. Cindy and Jim's story seemed more personal and I wanted someone who would understand where we were coming from. As I read through this very website and read stories of families who were matched within a couple months, I was in awe. Could that possibly happen to us?! My first conversation with Cindy in January 2014 felt like I had known her for years which put all my fears at ease. I knew we had found who we wanted to work with on our adoption journey. My husband and I began our home study in January and by March started working with Cindy and Jim on our profile. One of my first conversations with Jim he joked that we would have a baby by my husband's birthday on May 1st. It was all very exciting to see our life in words and pictures and to realize this representation would bring the baby meant to be ours into our life. Our profile officially "went live" April 1, 2014.
We shared our story with all our friends and planned to most likely have a match by the end of the year by the timeline Cindy and Jim estimated. On April 13, 2014, a Sunday morning, my phone rang and I asked my husband to answer it. He yelled to me from the bedroom that it was a number he didn't know and began reciting the number. I recognized the area code immediately and excitedly yelled back "Answer it! It's them!" My stomach sank as I heard his responses..."hold on, let me put you on speaker phone." It was Cindy's voice saying we had a potential match! We nervously scheduled a telephone call with the birth mom for the next day and by Thursday of the same week, Cindy confirmed she loved us and wanted to move forward! So you're reading this thinking ok, so you had a match soon and the birth mom was probably only a few months pregnant...NOT SO! She was due May 12, 2014!! We spent the next month going to visit the birth mom who lived 3 hours from us and texting her almost daily to see how she and baby were doing. We formed a great relationship and decided to keep in close contact after the birth. We even got to go to a doctor's appointment with her and hear the baby's heart beat and see an ultrasound!!
After being induced on May 19, 2014, our beautiful baby girl Georgia Grace was born on May 20, 2014 at 1:41am weighing 6lbs 14oz and 20 inches long. She was absolutely perfect! I was in the delivery room for the birth and was able to cut the cord. (My husband left the room for pushing time bc he doesn't handle blood well lol) It was an unbelievable experience! It has now been almost 6 weeks since the birth of our baby girl and we couldn't be happier. We are living our dream. It's still hard to believe that only 6 months ago, we thought we may never have a child. Without the help of Cindy and Jim, the life we have right now would still only be a prayer. I truly believe God used Cindy and Jim to help us find the baby he had planned for us. We are finally on the happy side of the statistics!! From start of home study to baby being in our arms was 5 months...you can't put a price on that miracle!!
We spent over a year in a half with a lawyer that promised us the world and did not deliver. We were trying to advertise on our own through newspapers and online and we had maybe 1 phone call a week from someone crazy. It was frustrating, costly and exhausting. Luckily our lawyer did connect us Cindy from A Loving Alternative. She said that her average matches are between 3-6 months for couples without a child. Seeing as how our lawyer told us 6 months as well and it had been double the time, we were very skeptical. Within 3 months we were matched and after 6 months we had a our beautiful healthy baby boy in our home. She was VERY patient with all of our questions and concerns. She was prompt and thorough. We will definitely be going to Cindy first for our 2nd child. We could not have done it without her!
A Loving Alternitive was recommended to us by our social worker when we started the adoption process. From the very first phone call Cindy was professional, honest, friendly and easy to work with. We have a biological daughter and we were told it might take 6 months or so to be matched, but amazingly it only took 2 months. We began working with her in October and in early December we were holding our new born son! I still can't believe it! He is a beautiful healthy little guy!
When we got the call from Cindy about a possible match she had all of the birth mothers medical history and proof of pregnancy. She read everything over before sending us the information, and went through it with us. My husband and I had a chance to sit together and go over everything before we made a decision.
We got to meet our sons birth mother and she had wonderful things to say about Cindy. She mentioned she felt she could talk to her, and she was very caring.
Cindy is amazing and made our dreams come true! We highly recommend Cindy at A Loving Alternitive!!!
From A Different Perspective - Feeling Completely Cared For. . .
Many of the posts here are from new families who are still "aglow" with the successful adoption of their little miracle. I am writing today because I want to share my current experience of the waiting process with Cindy and Jim at A Loving Alternative. Before we began working with them (just a couple months ago) we had reached a point of desolation as we waited and tried to advocate for ourselves, to no avail. Celebrating with friends and family members when they announced they were expecting became heartbreaking as we were losing hope. We almost gave in the the sadness and exhaustion of "fighting the fight."
Then came Cindy and Jim.
To know that kind, concerned people are advocating for you, it is not just your "fight" anymore, but you have a team of people who want to support you, and know how difficult the process is because they went through the waiting themselves. . . our relationship with A Loving Alternative has opened our hearts up again to hope. We get regular updates about their advocacy and are regularly contacted. We feel engaged and informed all the time!
Instead of saying "IF we become parents" to say "WHEN we become parents." The waiting process has become easier now that we have companions on the journey. When that is being said by someone who hasn't even held her baby in her arms, imagine what I will say about them when (in probably not too long) I am holding my little miracle!
Consider working with A Loving Alternative. It has made all the difference for us.