Gladney Center for Adoption

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A review from a birth mom in her TWENTIES

Let me start off by saying it took me THREE YEARS to write a review without being an absolutely angry as hell adult over the way my daughter's adoption was handled and how I was treated as a human being in order for gladney to get what they wanted. Please keep in mind I am well educated, I went through with the adoption, I love my daughters adoptive parents and believe it was the best decision for her. I also am blessed to have given them this gift so I am NOT ANGRY at my daughter's adoptive parents.

I got pregnant at 23 when engaged to a man who I thought was my forever. Halfway through the pregnancy he bailed after becoming violent and beginning to use drugs... he then found someone else and took everything with him and I lost my job trying to keep everything up. So, I did the responsible thing and looked into adoption because I wanted my child to have the best life possible, which at the time I could not give her due to my circumstances.

I knew this was going to be a very very difficult and trying experience. I knew that going in, I knew it going out. I still know it to this day. But nothing, and I mean nothing warranted the way I was treated. You see, Gladney approaches you (when you are a birth mother) as a very sweet and understanding factor. They make you feel safe, understood, cared for and not judged.... At first. They meet with a potential birth mother at say a coffee shop, to make things less stressful to explain their processes. They lightly push to see if you want adoption and then give you a "silent deadline" to get back to them. In other words they say, "well thank you for considering us, just know we need to know really soon what your decision is so we can find you the right family." It may seem like a kind statement, but to someone like me, who was educated, grown and in a sticky situation it was a statement that came with pressure and stress to make a decision. For before you are able to even think they are setting up their next appointments with you, and if you're feeling pressured and just wanting to get out of a situation without being rude, you just set up the appointments and then leave. Which is what I did because I had chalked up my emotions to being created by the pregnancy. When I look back on it now, I realize I was in fact pressured. All throughout my pregnancy gladney hounded me to make the choice.

I wasn't sure, I wasn't sure, give me some room to breathe. But once I would get a small bit of room, here they would come again "Anon, we need you to make a choice, anon we have some great families, anon, anon, anon."

Let me say that gladney does "take care of birth mothers" before and after the birth. They cover our expenses (just the birth then emergency csection was 30k+, not including obgyn visits, other Medical expenses, etc .). At least that's what I thought. I can tell you right now that it's medicaid for pregnancies that cover our medical expenses. They don't pay the hospitals bills, the government does. I know this, because my parents and I had to deal with this afterwards and before when they forced me to sign up for Medicaid even though I had medical insurance. So if they say they're paying for it and that's why they are charging you as potential parents so much, that's crap! They also say they will help with rent while you are pregnant, etc. yet never ONCE did I receive such assistance beforehand or after despite my two inquiries when I was desperate. Instead it was my parents who helped. I did though get help for 100$ for groceries which i will get to here in a bit...

A few months before my daughter's birth I finally chose adoption. I knew it was the right thing, and so I picked out an amazing family. I can confirm someone's review where they make you meet them at a restaurant and it seems very impersonal. Though my meeting went great, I feel it could have gone better. The case workers put a time limit and cause a lot of pressure and stress for you to "get along" and I feel their ways of trying to do this can make the situation turn negative or make it just simply even more awkward than it needs to be. In other words, the case workers need to sit back and allow us as birth mothers and potential adoptive parents to actually interact rather than being kept from discussing certain things and trying to direct conversations. It really doesn't help us to build any sort of bond. Though thankfully I had the blessing to meet such understanding people.

Because of these two wonderful people being who they were, I chose them despite the awkward interactions caused by delegating caseworkers. And I can't reiterate enough how grateful and how approving I am of and for them. I mean, I did chose them to raise my perfect and beautiful little one.

So let me fast forward to my daughter's birth. I was induced and ended up in an emergency c-section, so I got 3 days in the hospital with my perfect little one. Day one was rough. Because almost as soon as she and I were out of post op/recovery and back into the room my caseworker bustled in and started asking fast paced questions. Are you going to sign? Here's the process, I need you to sign, your daughter is going to stay with a foster family.

Now let me pause here for a moment: for those of you who have heard of this foster family stuff, I too have been through this and I discovered they use many false statements to force it to happen. In my case? They told me they needed* it to be done in order to protect my daughter from her father and having him come in and try to stop the adoption. Looking back on it now, I realize they used my fear of him to convince me it was the right thing to do. Which angers me. Because no matter how you try to justify it, that is manipulation of someone at a very vulnerable point, no matter what age they are. Every day my caseworker came and asked me to sign the papers. I kept saying no. I just wanted my three days with her without the paperwork and worries. Three days I could carry with me until the day I die. On day two in the AM I burst out crying and told my caseworker to leave me Alone and so she did. Then comes 7am on the third day and here she comes. She immei begins taking over the room. Tells the nurse I need to be off all medicines (which yes, is the legal requirement) and then tells me I need to sign papers at 10 and that after, the foster mother would come in and take my daughter and then I would be discharged.

It was a humiliating experience.

I can in no way possibly express to adoptive parents how humiliating this process is, no matter what age we are. I can't begin to imagine the pain as a birth mother how painful it can be for an adoptive couple being told no, but I can say when we as birth parents begin to be pressured the more the will to say no builds within us because we are hurting. This process is excruciating and humiliating. Please try to understand we don't want to hurt you, we are simply struggling internally so deeply that we can't put it into words.

So I said no. I needed time and I had time, because she had to be with the foster family for 30 days. But still, they dressed my daughter, gave her to the foster parent and off they went and I was wheeled out of the hospital a sobbing, humiliated mess.

Fast forward to 2 weeks later. I am allowed 3 visits a week and I am taking advantage of that. I love seeing her. But here comes the pressure to sign. I know I need to, I know I do. But I need just a little more time. I ask for a few days. They allow it. The day before my signing, my daughter's father shows up. I call gladney thinking "hey, i need to inform them, let me be responsible and do so and see if he can visit her." Because unbeknownst to them, he had agreed to sign the papers as long as he could just meet and hold her atleast once and he wanted to say sorry to her for being a screw up. I asked them if a visit would be okay... but suddenly my caseworker begins to panic and she says "you stay right where you are, I will be there soon, we need him to sign the papers" and hangs up. Within 15 minutes the caseworker and her assistant(?) are at my front door and when I open the door I ask them kindly if they could leave and that I didn't approve their coming directly to my home. That my ex and I would respectfully meet with them at the Fort Worth location to sign papers. Though my caseworker wasn't having it and pushed her way inside and immediately approached my ex who was freshly dealing with the news and crying. She began to belittle him and tell him the law required him to sign now that I have made the choice to do this which I firmly reminded her that wasn't the case, then I firmly asked her to leave, which she did not do. She continued to push my ex to sign papers until he calmly stood up and walked out of the house after saying "I was going to, but you can't push someone like this. This isn't how it should be done."

She then looks at me and tells me I have made a "big mistake bringing him here" and that "this decision I have made was going to deeply effect my relationship with the adoptive parents" then "I don't think you can be trusted, so we are going to cease your visitations and decide what we need to do."

I was absolutely BLOWN away, because everything I had done was correct. There wasn't any other way to do it. The next day I went into the agency with my parents to sign the papers, my ex refused to go. He didn't want a part of it after how he had been treated, which even as shitty as he was, was understandable. Nobody would is want to deal with that in that sort of situation. I sign the papers. I sign them for a visit every six months until she is five. I have copies of this*** THIS IS IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER.

I then am "granted" a 30 minute visit for signing the paperwork. Then taken home. I ask my caseworker when the adoption ceremony will be because I want to be there. She says "we aren't sure yet, I will let you know when th adoptive parents are able". Later that morning, gladney did the adoption ceremony with my parents and the adoptive parents while I sat at home unknowing. I did not find this out until my mom told me almost a year later because she had been told I was "not wanting to do it, because I couldn't face the pain."

A month after the official adoption ceremony I needed help with groceries. My caseworker said I needed proof I needed the help and she could give me a card and then take me herself. I said that was fine. We go, and while we are going I am keeping things civil and polite. But I gain the courage to ask her why the adoption ceremony happened the way it did... her response? "With all the issues you caused, you were a threat to the adoption because of your ex.. you are sick 'anon', you need professional help. So if you want your visits, we are going to need you to go to a therapist and have records of those events"

AGAIN... I was ABSOLUTELY blown away. But because I was desperate for the visits, I went. The first visit comes around and man, was it hard. I was very emotional afterwards. I said "I don't know if I can do this again."

Well let me tell you something, just incase you as a birth parent or even adoptive parents are feeling emotional, don't say ANYTHING that could condemn you. Because apparently a statement made from emotion is LAW and can end your contracts even without your signing anything!

Thank god I got my adoptive mothers email, because when the next six months came along and I asked for my visit gladney told me that my saying that meant they went in and canceled the visitations and no longer had to abide by the contract. I mean they went so far as to change the paperwork to 1 visitation after birth. Which contradicts the exact paperwork copies I have from my lawyer.

After that I was done with gladney. I just couldn't do it anymore.

Just whatever you do, do not even consider giving this place your money. It toon almost 3 years to rebuild a relationship with my daughter's adoptive parents due to the lies and slander gladney had served them on a silver platter about me. It took the same amount of time for my parents to rebuild a relationship with them as well.

I was a good person just wanting to do the right thing and they made me into a horrible troubled young woman. What could have been a truly beautiful though pained experience was a complete an utter nightmare and this is only the "bigger" issues I went through as a birth parent.

Just stay away. You and your child's birth or adoptive parents will do so much better somewhere else than here.

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Stay Away from Gladney

I also gave Gladney a one, but they deserve a zero. We chose Gladney for what we thought was an adoption agency with good people, processes, and technologies to do the right thing for the birth mother and the couples looking to adopt through Gladney. Their fees were high, due to our combined income levels, which we chose to accept as our impression was that it went to help the birth mothers. It seems they spending more on marketing and slick brochures than needed. They also highlight the Bush family as their sponsors and adoptve parents, and that persuaded us to go with Gladney. We were a military family and a Christian family, and we have conservative family values.

In summary, we were notified after more than six months, that we were not selected as adoptive parents by Gladney as they felt our parenting style was too authoritarian and rigid, which we took to belief that my military background and our religious beliefs/ values as Catholics were not a good fit for Gladney. We’re disappointed, but more upset we wasted over six months of gathering paperwork, and resubmitting paperwork to get to the stage to be told this. Plus they had us take of time from work to drive down to Fort Worth, TX to tell us we were not selected. I asked them, why waste our time, and their reason was a bit flawed. I think they have plenty of adoptive parents applying, and they can choose to be extremely selective. Read the reviews on Gladney and be very cautious before you decide to go with them. The seem to simply want your money and your silence acceptance of their process. They are not a faith based organization , and they do not represent the adoption industry or the adoption cause well. Be warned.

I question their decision making process on how they arrived at their decision, but in hindsight and looking at reviews of Gladney online, I agree with their assessment that Gladney is not a good fit for our adoption needs. I just wish we hadn’t wasted our time and effort with Gladney.

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Avoid Gladney at All Costs!! (Slightly Revised)

First off, it's too bad I have to give Gladney a one-star because it deserves zero stars. Second, the content may look biased to some because our adoption through Gladney failed. As I've looked at the mixed ratings from previous posts out there, there are some parents who have nothing but praises about Gladney as their adoption(s) was a success. Others rightly posted poor ratings because of long wait time, promises made by Gladney that wait time would be short that turned out to be a lie, and others who adopted but have had post-adoption nightmares. My wife and I give Gladney a one-star because of misrepresentation. Please keep this key word in mind as you read this post. Here's our sad story.

We went through orientation at Fort Worth, TX in November 2011 while we still lived in Alaska. We were prepared that a successful adoption could take longer for us because some birth moms don't want to see their child go to a state so far away and one that is expensive to fly to; driving to it is also costly and time-consuming due to the long distance, not to mention a passport is required at the borders for in and out of Canada. At the same time some birth moms won't pick military people because of frequent moves. We left Alaska in mid-2013 (military orders) and moved to San Antonio, TX. At the time we thought our chances for a domestic adoption would greatly increase; after all, we're now in the same state. Amazingly enough, a birth mom picked us at the end of 2013 and needless to say we were thrilled. We met with the birth mom, her mother, her caseworker, and my caseworker at a restaurant of the birth mom's choosing - ALL at OUR expense! Before I go any further, keep in mind the birth mom was a 13-year old BRAT!! (I don't sugar coat so if I'm blunt, too bad! Don't continue with this post!) The dinner conversation went well until we started showing photos of the bed room of the baby girl we were going to adopt. The 13-year old birth mom's face changed dramatically. She had a malicious look on her face at that point as if to say, ""You're not getting my child."" Yes, I understand adoption plans are a loss to any birth mom and emotions run off the chart but a 13-year old pulling the strings here?!! Her mother was just a stupid as she could not say no to her little princess. The birth mom gave birth to her baby girl about two weeks later. Things started to smell bad at the time of meeting at the restaurant and only got worse. We were led to believe the birth mom would sign the paperwork short after the birth. However, she threw such a fit. She was allowed to see her daughter at the temporary foster mom's place while all this was going on. Because of her continued fits, the agency thought it would be best to place the baby with her mother (the 13-year old) hoping and thinking a light would come on in her brain that caring for a baby while the birth mom is still practically a baby would be too much for her and that an adoption plan would be in the best interest of the child! Dumb! Dumb! And Dumber!! Of course the birth mom is going to bond with the baby and vice versa. And the 13-year old's mom just couldn't say no even though she had previously pledged to us at the restaurant that her daughter had no choice but to place her baby up for an adoption. Remember the key word ""misrepresentation"" I mentioned earlier? I get it, that birth moms do change their minds. My wife and I just don't get it in relation to a 13-year old. It's true that if you give a child everything he or she wants and that child will hate the parent later on in life when the parent can't provide anymore and I see that happening with this young brat! The misrepresentation came from our caseworker who claimed she saw no warning signs whatsoever that the adoption plan would go south. We were left hanging for three weeks. I phoned two other adoption agencies during this time. One said that the longer we were left hanging, the less like we were going to get the baby. The other agency said when an adoption doesn't look like it will go through, it will inform the adoptive parents after just 48 hours. Friends and family alike saw the warning signs that we were going to be hosed! We knew even when we wanted to be hopeful. Our caseworker lied and played with our emotions! That's what I mean by misrepresentation. When a birth mom changes her mind, it's hurtful but the fact that this pathetic case dragged on resulted in more anger and a much bigger let down. We were so close!

In our case, we tried having our own baby again but once again my wife miscarried for the eighth time. We should have given our failed adoption time to heal so now we are really in a mess with nothing to show for it. We withdrew from Gladney and we did the right thing, despite the miscarriage. They're liars who will not represent the perspective adoptive parents when something like our sad story turns out to be a permanent sad story.

Gladney is over 100 years old and it may have been good at one time. Sadly, while some organizations remain excellent, I believe that's an exception and not the norm. Many organizations go the way of disorder over time; they don't get better. (Just look at our government as an example). It's nearly impossible to set things straight once an organization takes a turn for the wrong direction.

My heart aches for women like my wife who have not been blessed with children. Yes, my heart aches for the men as well as they are part of the whole thing. Don't go to Gladney to add to your sorrow that you already have. At the top of this message, I stated that what you are reading may be biased based on our failed experience; so be it. But Gladney's problem is much more than adoptions that don't go through. A failed adoption can also mean getting a child or children but a child(ren) may be the product of substance abuse by the birth mom that results in a nightmare for the adoptive parents later on. Just read the post above titled ""Gladney Nightmare"" above. Between my post here and the post-adoption nightmare above, Gladney doesn't care about its clients. All they want is your money. We put a lot of money down. The only thing we did not put down was the money that would have gone to Gladney of we had had a successful adoption. We did not get a refund and we have nothing to show for it. Again, avoid this corrupt agency. I'm a believing, born-again Christian who has put his faith in the Lord Jesus Christ so what I am about to say may not make sense to someone who doesn't share the Christian faith but I'm going to say this anyway; it comes from 1 Timothy 6:10 from the English Standard Version of the Bible: ""For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs."" I don't want to get technical here but the King James Version translates the first part of the verse as, “For the love of money is the root of all evil..."" but modern translations are more accurate when it comes to this verse. Gladney will take your money whether or not your adoption is successful but either misrepresents you if the adoption fails (like ours) or doesn't support post-adoptive parents if they suffer the nightmare of a violent adopted child like the ""Gladney Nightmare"" posted above. Yet this agency had the gall to ask for support if the adoption is successful. This agency is evil and parents who wish to adopt should look elsewhere. Avoid Gladney!

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Avoid Gladney at all costs!!

First off, it's too bad I have to give Gladney a one-star because it deserves zero stars. Second, the content may look biased to some because our adoption through Gladney failed. As I've looked at the mixed ratings from previous posts out there, there are some parents who have nothing but praises about Gladney as their adoption(s) was a success. Others rightly posted poor ratings because of long wait time, promises made by Gladney that wait time would be short that turned out to be a lie, and others who adopted but have had post-adoption nightmares. My wife and I give Gladney a one-star because of misrepresentation. Please keep this key word in mind as you read this post. Here's our sad story.

We went through orientation at Fort Worth, TX in November 2011 while we still lived in Alaska. We were prepared that a successful adoption could take longer for us because some birth moms don't want to see their child go to a state so far away and one that is expensive to fly to; driving to it is also costly and time-consuming due to the long distance, not to mention a passport is required at the borders for in and out of Canada. At the same time some birth moms won't pick military people because of frequent moves. We left Alaska in mid-2013 (military orders) and moved to San Antonio, TX. At the time we thought our chances for a domestic adoption would greatly increase; after all, we're now in the same state. Amazingly enough, a birth mom picked us at the end of 2013 and needless to say we were thrilled. We met with the birth mom, her mother, her caseworker, and my caseworker at a restaurant of the birth mom's choosing - ALL at OUR expense! Before I go any further, keep in mind the birth mom was a 13-year old BRAT!! (I don't sugar coat so if I'm blunt, too bad! Don't continue with this post!) The dinner conversation went well until we started showing photos of the bed room of the baby girl we were going to adopt. The 13-year old birth mom's face changed dramatically. She had a malicious look on her face at that point as if to say, ""You're not getting my child."" Yes, I understand adoption plans are a loss to any birth mom and emotions run off the chart but a 13-year old pulling the strings here?!! Her mother was just a stupid as she could not say no to her little princess. The birth mom gave birth to her baby girl about two weeks later. Things started to smell bad at the time of meeting at the restaurant and only got worse. We were led to believe the birth mom would sign the paperwork short after the birth. However, she threw such a fit. She was allowed to see her daughter at the temporary foster mom's place while all this was going on. Because of her continued fits, the agency thought it would be best to place the baby with her mother (the 13-year old) hoping and thinking a light would come on in her brain that caring for a baby while the birth mom is still practically a baby would be too much for her and that an adoption plan would be in the best interest of the child! Dumb! Dumb! And Dumber!! Of course the birth mom is going to bond with the baby and vice versa. And the 13-year old's mom just couldn't say no even though she had previously pledged to us at the restaurant that her daughter had no choice but to place her baby up for an adoption. Remember the key word ""misrepresentation"" I mentioned earlier? I get it, that birth moms do change their minds. My wife and I just don't get it on relation to a 13-year old. It's true that if you give a child everything he or she wants and that child will hate the parent later on in life when the parent can't provide anymore and I see that happening with this young brat! The misrepresentation came from our caseworker who claimed she saw no warning signs whatsoever that the adoption plan would go south. We were left hanging for three weeks. I phoned two other adoption agencies during this time. One said that the longer we were left hanging, the less like we were going to get the baby. The other agency said when an adoption doesn't look like it will go through, it will inform the adoptive parents after just 48 hours. Friends and family alike saw the warning signs that we were going to be hosed! We knew even when we wanted to be hopeful. Our caseworker lied and played with our emotions! That's what I mean by misrepresentation. When a birth mom changes her mind, it's hurtful but the fact that this pathetic case dragged on resulted in more anger and a much bigger let down. We were so close!

In our case, we tried having our own baby again but once again my wife miscarried for the eighth time. We should have given our failed adoption time to heal so now we are really in a mess with nothing to show for it. We withdrew from Gladney and we did the right thing, despite the miscarriage. They're liars who will not represent the perspective adoptive parents when something like our sad story turns out to be a permanent sad story.

Gladney is over 100 years old and it may have been good at one time. Sadly, while some organizations remain excellent, I believe that's an exception and not the norm. Many organizations go the way of disorder over time; they don't get better. (Just look at our government as an example). It's nearly impossible to set things straight once an organization takes a turn for the wrong direction.

My heart aches for women like my wife who have not been blessed with children. Yes, my heart aches for the men as well as they are part of the whole thing. Don't go to Gladney to add to your sorrow that you already have. At the top of this message, I stated that what you are reading may be biased based on our failed experience; so be it. But Gladney's problem is much more than adoptions that don't go through. A failed adoption can also mean getting a child or children but a child(ren) may be the product of substance abuse by the birth mom that results in a nightmare for the adoptive parents later on. Just read the post above titled ""Gladney Nightmare"" above. Between my post here and the post-adoption nightmare above, Gladney doesn't care about its clients. All they want is your money. We put a lot of money down. The only thing we did not put down was the money that would have gone to Gladney of we had had a successful adoption. We did not get a refund and we have nothing to show for it. Again, avoid this corrupt agency. I'm a believing, born-again Christian who has put his faith in the Lord Jesus Christ so what I am about to say may not make sense to someone who doesn't share the Christian faith but I'm going to say this anyway; it comes from 1 Timothy 6:10 from the English Standard Version of the Bible: ""For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs."" I don't want to get technical here but the King James Version translates the first part of the verse as, ΓÇ£For the love of money is the root of all evil..."" but modern translations are more accurate when it comes to this verse. Gladney will take your money whether or not your adoption is successful but either misrepresents you if the adoption fails (like ours) or doesn't support post-adoptive parents if they suffer the nightmare of a violent adopted child like the ""Gladney Nightmare"" posted above. Yet this agency had the gall to ask for support if the adoption is successful. This agency is evil and parents who wish to adopt should look elsewhere. Avoid Gladney!

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Domestic application denied without explanation

Tried to push us into international adoption and turned down our domestic application stating only that there were not many birth mothers and they did not feel we had what the birth mothers were looking for. We are unable to have children of our own, have a good stable income, beautiful home and community and yet we are turned down with such a vague explanation. Unbelievable.. Needless to say we are looking elsewhere to complete our family.

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Wait time

Keep in mind a lot of birth mothers want families that will do at least a yearly visit. If that is what she is requesting and you aren't willing to do that then that could be why you aren't being shown as much. That said, you need to do what is right for your family, just know that it may take a little longer.

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Who is the caseworker?

If I may ask....who is the caseworker for both of you? I have a feeling of who it might be....

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Caseworker?

6 years? Have you ever had to go "on hold" for any reason? Who is your caseworker?

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whatever you do, do NOT go here

I respect you for your decision to look into adoption. You deserve respect and support and guidance and Gladney is NOT the place for you. I was blatantly lied to on many occasions by the agency in order to keep me with the agency. I was told my son's adoptive parents were open to a visit at one year because that was something that was very important to me. Come to find out, no one even asked them if they were open to and it and it turns out, they were not. This caused a huge tear in the relationship between me and my son's adoptive parents that we've never been able to repair. The agency also told me my son had to go to foster care between being in the hospital with me and going home to his adoptive parents. When we decided this was not an option and were going to go for a private adoption, the agency said that's not a requirement at all. I have voiced my concerns, but no one cares. Birth moms and families FINALLY have a caseworker, but only because someone privately donated the funds because Gladney felt having (just one) caseworker for every birth mom, father and family was not important. Probably because they cannot profit off of someone once their baby has been sold. They are purely in the business of selling babies. Please do not fall victim to this corrupt agency. They simply do not care about you at all after they have made their money off of you. They will only send a letter as a reminder to the adoptive parents for breaking their contract. They will not email or call. They really just do not care at all about birth families. My son's adoptive parents have mentioned they feel the same as I do about Gladney. Please research wherever you go and don't let anyone pressure you into anything, just because the baby is coming soon. I wish you all the best in your adoption voyage. Sending lots of love!
my son was born in 2005. Things were horrible then and have not improved.

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RE: Domestic Adoption

We have been waiting to adopt through their domestic infant program for six years. Yes, you heard that right and I'm sure that Gladney will dispute that claim. They don't like couples that disrupt their marketing averages.

We have a failed adoption through Gladney. It is questionable if Gladney did any background information on this birth mother. It is also questionable if we will ever get another situation. They stated they will roll over all our fees to the next match. The problem is there is never another match/situation.

We seriously question what is Gladney doing for couples in our situation. It is pretty clear they don't want to work with us, but we are a problem as we have retained an attorney to enforce the contract. Gladney constantly tell us how difficult we are and we are too old to adopt.

Thus, I cannot recommend this agency.

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Gladney nightmare!!!

We adopted a large sibling group through Gladney's domestic adoption program 5 years ago and we have gotten zero post adoption support. They are awful and dishonest about helping families post adoption. We called within a few weeks to get help with issues these children were having and they gave us phone numbers to therapists. We did therapy, a lot of therapy, and medical diagnosis and nutritional therapies and much, much more.

One of our children is so violent he can not live in our home and Gladney suggested we just abandon him to the state and get a criminal record for child abandonment. When we said that was unacceptable, they turned our case over to a post adoption worker who then contacted me because she was turning our case over to child protective services. She told me we could lose all of our children, even our birth children, if the state worker found we had not tried hard enough, in her estimation, to help this little boy. I withdrew our case and my husband has had to move out of our home to live with our aggressive son in order to keep our family safe.

Gladney has exhausted our time, money, and mental reserves by making us jump through hoop after hoop. They usually just tell us to google this thing or that thing and make calls. They should call their post adoption support program "google it" because that is their advice 90% of the time anyway. We get plenty of invitations to fund raisers and requests to donate money from Gladney, though.

If you adopt through this agency, know you are on your own if there are problems after finalization. They will give you platitudes and sympathetic words, but the real help will not come. If your adopted child has any real issues, you will be floating on a sea of lonliness, forgotten by Gladney because they have their money and that is what is important in their world.

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Good experience

We started our adoption process with Gladney in January 2010 and finally received our referral for a baby girl in Ethiopia in October 2012. Our daughter has been home with us since February 2013. It was a long wait, but Gladney communicated with us frequently and we feel they were ethical and responsible in all of their efforts.

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Still Waiting Domestic Program

Hi, I am writing to encourage any adoptive parents to do their homework and make sure they choose the best agency and
advocate for them. At this point, I would not say that is Gladney. I earlier posted that we were still waiting and that our
predicted wait time would be around 15 or so months. After doing our home study review, I highly doubt that it will be anywhere close to that. I am disappointed mostly with our caseworker and her advocacy on our behalf. I expected her to be excited and really eager to show our profile. I am definitely getting the feeling that she is neither. We are not getting the opportunities or showings and this makes the end result of matching and bringing home a baby near impossible. I also feel alone and like she is bothered and annoyed by contact and questions. I understand that we are not the only couple she is working with, but I do not feel she is advocating for us or really is going the extra mile to help us find a match. I am not sure if others have had the same experience with Gladney , but I hope to hear from some other adoptive families about their experiences. We just want a happy and successful adoption journey with the friendly, eager, and helpful attitude of our caseworker who we thought would be our support system. I look forward to hearing about other parents journey. We have had to advocate for ourselves it feels like and that I thought would be part of Gladney's responsibliity as well.

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I'm sorry you feel such anger towards adoptive parents

It is so sad to hear the anger you have for adoptive parents. Adoptive parents like myself only want the same things everyone else has, a family. Through adoption we are able to create this great miracle and will always be grateful for our future birthmom.I have no idea and do not pretend to know how a birthmom feels. I only know how I feel and how much love we have to give to a child. I am sorry your experience was not a good one. Hopefully, you will find that adoption is loving and adoptive parents are great people who are not trying to take other people's babies. A parent is one who cares and loves a child all of his or her life. Having said that , this baby will be loved and our very own. In the end, the way a family is made can come in all different ways. Adoption is a loving and awesome way to create a family. We have the upmost love and respect for the decision our birthmom will make and the sacrifice she will have to go through as well.

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You said WHAT?

Let me tell you something, as a mother of adoption loss, I know ALL about adoption. Don't you dare tell me I have a poor understanding of what happened to me AND to my child. Tell adopters to stop making bogus promises to vulnerable young women to con them out of their infants, but then so many of you would never get your coveted prize if you didn't do that, a child that is not yours.

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